Millenial
09-21-2009, 12:22 PM
Long story short: I dated a woman for about 6 months. She has PTSD and had an abusive childhood. Things were good for the first half of the relationship, then starting going south. My main gripe is that she abused alcohol. She also has anger management issues stemming from her PTSD.
Friday night we go to a club. She is flirting with other men and dancing with them. She starts whispering in a guys ear and they walk elsewhere. She says I have to use the bathroom. I am like cool, and I went to use it too. Waiting for her I noticed she did not leave the bathroom but came from a back area in the club and the other man suddenly appeared behind me. I questioned her and she said everythings cool. I didn't buy it and she admitted she did a line of cocaine with the man and wanted to hide it from me to protect me. We go home and I tell her it was a violation of my trust and that I dont know if I can continue on with this....
Next night, after deciding to let her prove she wouldn't do it again, we have a good night. We leave the club and she starts getting made because I am smoking a cigarette, which she hates. She then says I am a hypocrite and an insecure person and that it's unfair to be mad at her. I say that the relationship is over, I want my belongings and that I will be going to stay at my parents. We drive, she wants food, so I stop by taco bell. it's closed. i get out of the car for a sec to call my parents to arrange to stay the night.
10 minutes later while having my back turned, she's gone. i call her and she says im dead to her. i say im coming to get my stuff and that im going home
i knock on the door and she points her finger at me to just go. im like please just get my stuff. i knock again and am like if i have to i'll call the cops so i dont have to enter your house. she lets me in, i get my things, and go on my merry way. i get a call from the cops about an hour later. i am like look i dumped her i needed my cell phone charger for work, and i didnt force entry or yell or make threats. they're like just dont call her tonight and dont go by the house. fine and dandy.
sunday/early monday- she texts me and calls incessentaly saying how she cant believe i ditched her, that im ignoring her, and that she still cares for me but that i am mean and that im a bad person. i ignore all the messages and dont respond and plan on doing so. she told all her friends, some believe me but i dont even care.
basically i just want to be left alone and dont want to have to resort to filing a protective order against her.
anyone been in a situation like this? i admit i should have just waited to get my stuff the next day and have someone else get it, like the cops. i just wanted to make a clean break.
Friday night we go to a club. She is flirting with other men and dancing with them. She starts whispering in a guys ear and they walk elsewhere. She says I have to use the bathroom. I am like cool, and I went to use it too. Waiting for her I noticed she did not leave the bathroom but came from a back area in the club and the other man suddenly appeared behind me. I questioned her and she said everythings cool. I didn't buy it and she admitted she did a line of cocaine with the man and wanted to hide it from me to protect me. We go home and I tell her it was a violation of my trust and that I dont know if I can continue on with this....
Next night, after deciding to let her prove she wouldn't do it again, we have a good night. We leave the club and she starts getting made because I am smoking a cigarette, which she hates. She then says I am a hypocrite and an insecure person and that it's unfair to be mad at her. I say that the relationship is over, I want my belongings and that I will be going to stay at my parents. We drive, she wants food, so I stop by taco bell. it's closed. i get out of the car for a sec to call my parents to arrange to stay the night.
10 minutes later while having my back turned, she's gone. i call her and she says im dead to her. i say im coming to get my stuff and that im going home
i knock on the door and she points her finger at me to just go. im like please just get my stuff. i knock again and am like if i have to i'll call the cops so i dont have to enter your house. she lets me in, i get my things, and go on my merry way. i get a call from the cops about an hour later. i am like look i dumped her i needed my cell phone charger for work, and i didnt force entry or yell or make threats. they're like just dont call her tonight and dont go by the house. fine and dandy.
sunday/early monday- she texts me and calls incessentaly saying how she cant believe i ditched her, that im ignoring her, and that she still cares for me but that i am mean and that im a bad person. i ignore all the messages and dont respond and plan on doing so. she told all her friends, some believe me but i dont even care.
basically i just want to be left alone and dont want to have to resort to filing a protective order against her.
anyone been in a situation like this? i admit i should have just waited to get my stuff the next day and have someone else get it, like the cops. i just wanted to make a clean break.