mahlerssecond
10-08-2009, 04:57 PM
I learned today that my best friend is moving to a city three hours away to be with his fiance. This is the last of the close friendships that I have left here. I am deeply saddened by this news, even though I have other friends, though not as close. The two of us shared our struggle with Asperger Syndrome for almost 15 years.
The quandry that I have is trying to find someone my own age that I can relate to. I have made a number of quality friendships in my church, but those people are usually middle age or elderly. Many times these people are too caught up with their work, family, or community activites outside of church to get close to them outside of that venue.
I work with a number of young people at the job I have held for the last year and a half. The work is very individual (call center) and everybody is caught up in their own little world. I have made some connections with older co-workers, but no one my age.
I don't drink and don't like spending time in drinking establishments, plus am very repulsed by those that do drink frequently and excessively.
The times that I have checked into online dating, I was not excited by the fact that everyone seemed so homogenous on there (nobody in this area advertises their quirks, and it seemed like everyone was the Bacne Monster from the Tawny Hill Trailer Park on there). I also have heard a number of horror stories from other people.
One of my best prospects for friendship and I just made a truce with one another. Even though him and I have a bond with one another, his wife, kids and other friends are a high barrier to becoming a close friend with him (I may bring this up on another thread in the future on how to deal).
Maybe I have to settle for acquaintanceship and situational friendship, but does anyone else have any other ideas how to meet people? I feel as though if I have exhausted my possibilites and tried the standard advise and still haven't met anyone to replace this friendship.
The quandry that I have is trying to find someone my own age that I can relate to. I have made a number of quality friendships in my church, but those people are usually middle age or elderly. Many times these people are too caught up with their work, family, or community activites outside of church to get close to them outside of that venue.
I work with a number of young people at the job I have held for the last year and a half. The work is very individual (call center) and everybody is caught up in their own little world. I have made some connections with older co-workers, but no one my age.
I don't drink and don't like spending time in drinking establishments, plus am very repulsed by those that do drink frequently and excessively.
The times that I have checked into online dating, I was not excited by the fact that everyone seemed so homogenous on there (nobody in this area advertises their quirks, and it seemed like everyone was the Bacne Monster from the Tawny Hill Trailer Park on there). I also have heard a number of horror stories from other people.
One of my best prospects for friendship and I just made a truce with one another. Even though him and I have a bond with one another, his wife, kids and other friends are a high barrier to becoming a close friend with him (I may bring this up on another thread in the future on how to deal).
Maybe I have to settle for acquaintanceship and situational friendship, but does anyone else have any other ideas how to meet people? I feel as though if I have exhausted my possibilites and tried the standard advise and still haven't met anyone to replace this friendship.