Friends who disappear when you're doing well

[nienne]

I've got a couple of friends who always disappear when I'm doing well/okay! When I was living at home, unemployed, broke, and miserable, they would hang out all the time. One of them would make cracks about how she would never live at home with her parents, and would ask me repeatedly how I could stand it. Well now I got an apartment and am moving to a larger city and she suddenly doesn't respond to my texts/calls/emails to hang out!

The other friend would make cracks about how I wasn't working and it must be nice. Lalala. All the time. Now I just got a job and she never wants to hang out! I'm feeling really lonely and depressed. I went a year where I was complacent and nothing good happened for me. I'm finally making strides at the life I want and these people are just not there.

Life is not a competition! I don't want to compete with them. Why can't we just relax and enjoy each others company? I'm certainly not going to judge them for their hardships, chances are if they are making some stupid mistakes I either have, or will, make the same ones! We are all works in progress.

Are we more comfortable being friends with people who are on the exact same level or below us?

[AznHisoka]

for me, it's on same level. I'll be there if someone is having a tough time, but things are just much more smoother when we are all in similar life situations.

[Rage]

I find for me it's the opposite. I have friends who disappear until their life is in shambles. When things are going well they can't be bothered.

[cupkake]

That's why once a stranger on the road told me during a conversation "don't live your life for friends" because friends come and friends go and I didn't really buy into it at the time because that was about 10 years ago but that was some GREAT advice! I would buy her a happy meal if I saw her on the road today because the friends I would have been so into then aren't really even 'friends' with me anymore:eek:. Just do you and you will meet others if you like having 'friends'. I limit the 'friends' I have anyways.:rolleyes:

[Peter Trump]

Same thing happened to me.

People don't like to see you go up. Thats why they always say "Its lonely at the top".

[koolkat1980]

It's about finding "genuine" friends. Hmmm! I have a great friend's who's a doctor and she earns 4 times more than me! I don't feel the need to compete with her! I'm sure I have qualities she doesn't and likewise she has qualities I don't!

I've also had friends on the same level and below me!

Perhaps you need to seek out new friends. Which will happen...for not though...just focus on youself! Find out what you like! If they have a problem with you earning more than them...well it's their problem they have an "issue" with it and it's not yours in the end!

People always come and go in life. Life is a succession of changes...and sometimes it's painfully slow and painstaking...you'll get there! Just think positive.

[AznHisoka]

Yes, life is a long journey and everyone you meet will be a temporary guest in your story - some longer than others, but all are temporary. Just make sure you are your own best friend, and the rest will sort itself out.