so glad i found this page

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad that I found this page...I thought maybe I was losing it, but i'm so glad that other people are feeling the same way. I'm currently 25 and entering my second year of my master's program for school psychology...it's ok, it will be a good-paying stable job...but there's this little voice in the back of my mind telling me I got into the wrong subfield and should have followed my heart and done a Ph.D. in social psychology (even though you can't really do anything with it!). I keep thinking that I could do that after i am finished with my master's, but then I think, "wow...I'm 25...5 more years of school? Shouldn't I be more accomplished by now?" Then I feel like I have to choose...do I do the Ph.D. or do I eventually get married within the next 5 years? I feel like I can have one or the other, but not both (I'm not sure why I think that way). How do you decide who to marry anyway? That still confuses me! What's truly interesting is that while I love school, I envy my friends who have jobs, houses, actually have money to buy things, etc. I just feel like they are "more mature" than me...they're living life and here i am in the "safety" of grad school (did I mention still living at home...how sad is that?!) What's really funny though is that these friends are the same ones who complain about their jobs, houses, etc and wish they could have my life!

[JeannieGrace]

Hi! I'm 25, too.... Although I compare myself a lot to the people around me... you really can't. Everyone's life is different and has a different path to follow. You want to talk about crazy... I came from an extremely abusive and dysfunctional family. Well, it's a long story really.... but let's just say that if it wasn't for my older sister, I would have never even gone to college. I didn't think I was good enough to get into college. Yeah, I had major self-esteem problems.

I got my BA in English/Communications in 1998. I wanted to be a record producer in the music industry. When I met a lot of people in the music world... and saw how fake they were, I quickly realized it wasn't for me. I majored in Communications because I wanted to prove to myself I could do it.

Now, I am considering going back to get my Masters in Counseling Psychology.

I guess what I am saying is... what sucks about life.... is that you really can't predict anything. You have to sort of take things as they come at you.

And even though I try to tell myself that every day... I truly can't believe just how difficult it has turned out to be. But what I have realized is... that life will never be easy. You just have to keep going no matter what. You will be happy someday.... but life will never get easier. It's about conquering your fears... and learning lessons.

But that's just what I think. Just keep searching...you'll find what you're looking for...

[getonwithyourlifeandshutup]

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'We got no wars to name us'- Paul Westerberg

[inqlc]

i just found this site and it's so funny to have run into you two!!

i too am pursuing a degree for school psychology and am just praying that i chose the right area of psychology to study in. probably like you, a huge reason i chose it was the relatively short period of grad school required & the relatively good pay you get in return (at least i know it's not bad here in LA). i love psych so much that i almost feel like i could go "all the way" & get a PhD, but realistically, i don't think i'd want to be in school that long.

it's been such a toss up between school psych & clinical psych for me. what don't you like about school psych? i'm really interested to hear...

and to jeanniegrace: i got my BA in communications too & worked in the music industry...even when i was in college. i worked in publicity for a record company & then went on to fashion PR after college. i absolutely love music (less love of fashion after being in it), but i realized it wasn't for me either. i think it can work for some, but i just can't devote my life to all of that.

i'm getting a master's in counseling/school psych emphasis...
it's funny you might go into counseling now too! (we must have been traumatized by all that industry craziness, huh?!? j/k)

[inqlc]

whoops...just realized you posted 3 years ago! oh well...maybe you'll happen to get this anyway...

[ResurrecteD]

whats funny is that those people are probably finsihed with the programs they were asking questons about...I guess it proves the notion that in time this too shall pass!:D

[stonemonkey]

whats funny is that those people are probably finsihed with the programs they were asking questons about...I guess it proves the notion that in time this too shall pass!

i can imagine historians in 2054 digging thru these archives and asking 'who were these ppl?' by then, i guess things like email and cell phones will seem daggy.

[Empressallie]

The more I hear from friends, co-workers, homeless bums, the more I think that it is human nature to be angry and dissatisfied. Everyone I know wishes they had done something else, lived somewhere else, studied something else. The thing is, I think that no matter what we would have chosen these feelings would still be the same. I am right in the middle of pre-graduation nerves (although I dont graduate until May, its just my insanity that leads me into premature stress) and would love some reassurance. So many of the postings Ive read scare me even more. I didnt know temping was inherently evil.

[wordsmith]

Oh, no...we don't mean to scare you! Stick around, give us a chance!

[Empressallie]

dont worry, i'll stick it out. I just read the article in the globe today and i HAD to check it out. I will soon be a regular (once Dell delivers my computer - at the office now) I am looking forward to chatting with you nice folks...


PS. read any funny books lately. Just finished David sedaris, ME TALk PRETY ONE DAY. Almost shit a brick it was so funny

[inqlc]

i don't believe that it's in our nature to be angry & dissatisfied! yes, we have the ability (and it is an positive ability) to question things around us, to make choices in our lives which may cause us some grief, but ultimately, i think we should always strive to achieve a level of happiness and satisfaction...and i belive we all have great potential to do that!

[Empressallie]

wonderfully optimistic. I hope to one day think this way. I have my good days with this thinking positively.Do you have any advice for working on this?

[inqlc]

sorry i have no concrete ways to offer you, but i think it's a matter of changing your frame of thought. here's my little philosophy on this...

i don't believe in sulking in regret. i believe in accepting everything that comes in life--no matter what it is. you learn from your experiences--good and bad--so there's no reason to look back saying you wish things could've been done differently. there's no sense in it--you can't change the past, so take what you've learned and move forward. (btw, i'm not speaking to you directly...)

as for people who wish they could be doing something else--do it! sure, i'm making it sound a lot easier than it is, but more often than not there's a way to make positive changes toward your aspirations.

the thing to remember is that no one is ever stuck with anything. sure, we all have responsibilities, but i think by human nature we're all about change and growth...

i can't stand watching people living their lives with regret hanging over their shoulders. i know a lot of people like that & it saddens me that they don't see their own potential & aren't making full use of their life!