in terms of going out...

[tipsy88]

and attracting the opposite sex, do women find it more appealing when guys go out with another friend who is female (who you couldn't tell their relationship from just appearance), rather than another guy friend or two, or does it not make a difference? Just wondering if going out with my female friends actually reduces the chances of me meeting someone versus going out with my guy friends.


Personally i think, if women go out a group or guys or even one guy i think most guys wouldn't approach that girl, figuring she is probably with that guy or one of the guys i the group.

[paperjam1015]

I know if a guy is with another girl, I stay away from him. If he's with a mixed group of guys and girls then it's not too much of a problem, but I will definitely scope out the scene more before I talk to him.

[kimmer23]

some places you go you can be holding hands with your SO, have a wedding ring on and guys will still pester you. some people must have been brought up in the wild or something!

[Lynn0623]

I think guys are intimidated either way. It doesn't matter if you are with a group of female friends or a single male friend. They won't approach you. Why? I have no idea.

[wordsmith]

I have never had a guy approach me when I am with a group of guys, unless I was pretty blatant, i.e. making overt eye contact with somebody, etc. It makes sense. I wouldn't approach a guy who's out with a bunch of women. I'd either a. figure if he's not WITH somebody in the group, the odds are good that somebody in the group WANTS to be with him, and wouldn't appreciate me moving in or b.he might be gay, as my experience is that gay men often go out on the town as the sole guy in a group of women, and I hate looking like a dumbass by hitting on the hot gay guy.

I'd say that if you're out scoping for dates, it's probably in your best interest to do so in situations where you won't be misconstrued as being "taken."

[PrinceViper]

All the dating gurus suggest that if you are a guy you do your hunting alone. Why? Well, for many reasons. Main one is that when a girl sees a guy approacching her she is bound to be more resistant to his advances if she suspects that he is doing it out of sheer male bravado. However that is not to say that you shouldn't go out with a group of guys. Just make sure that when you are about to approach a girl she didn't see you staring her up and down and discussing her with your friends. About the worst combination that you can be involved in, however, is going out with just one other girl, who happens to be your friend. Girls automatically assume that you are together and look at you strange when you try to talk to them. And guys, well guys pretty much don't care, they still talk to her as if she is available without getting prior confirmation of that.

P.S. paperjam clear out your private message folder ;-)

[paperjam1015]

Viper, when you say Do your hunting alone" Do you mean go out by yourself...cause guys hitting on women that appear to have no friends with them creep me out. I assume either they have no friends and something is wrong with them or assume taht they are out alone trying. Call me vain, but if he's been talking to his friends, it's ok by me. Maybe he was jusst working up his courage. Sometimes I know I'd wait a few mins just to see if there was someone they were already talking too, so I don't look like a fool. And otehr times I just want to see if I can tell anything about the personality before appraoching. I appreciate that it's difficult to go and talk to a woman, so as long as he takes the step Im' fine.

I definitely agree about going out with the one other girl...it's a no no if you are looking.



P.S. paperjam clear out your private message folder ;-)

Done!! ;)

[PrinceViper]

Originally posted by paperjam1015
Viper, when you say Do your hunting alone" Do you mean go out by yourself...cause guys hitting on women that appear to have no friends with them creep me out. I assume either they have no friends and something is wrong with them or assume taht they are out alone trying. Call me vain, but if he's been talking to his friends, it's ok by me. Maybe he was jusst working up his courage. Sometimes I know I'd wait a few mins just to see if there was someone they were already talking too, so I don't look like a fool. And otehr times I just want to see if I can tell anything about the personality before appraoching. I appreciate that it's difficult to go and talk to a woman, so as long as he takes the step Im' fine.

I definitely agree about going out with the one other girl...it's a no no if you are looking.
Done!! ;)

Why do they creep you out? What if they're new to town and haven't met anyone? Or maybe all their friends are couch potatoes who'd rather watch the tube than go out? It could be a number of things really. But my opinion on the whole "working up the courage" argument is that it's the worst when your friends pressure you into going up to someone because it makes it somehow inevitable that you go up to the girl now or otherwise you are feeling disappointed in yourself. I always let it happen naturally and let the right words come to me at the moment I am going for it. I had a friend once who thought that he was doing me some favor by introducing me to girls without asking me first. Well, from multiple talks I've had with girls it is a general consensus that girls would prefer an average-looking assertive guy to a good-looking shy guy. Feel free to correct me if you disagree.

[wordsmith]

I myself have a HUUUUUUGE weakness for shy guys. Not insecure guys. Not guys with social phobia. But just your average, ordinary shy guy. More often than not, they're hidden treasures.

[stonemonkey]

ok, ok, i'm still confused, should i go out with a bunch of guys or not?

[tipsy88]

I myself have a HUUUUUUGE weakness for shy guys


so how is it that do they find you? or is it you that find them?

More often than not, they're hidden treasures.

yes we are :p

[coll214]

For me, the overly top guys (you know the ones that are blatantly flirting w/ anything w/ boobs) i'll talk to in the bar, but that's it. They tend to think they're God's gift, no thank you. I prefer the more quiet, hang out at the back of their crowd guys. They may have the over the top friends, but aren't the crazy ones. For some reason, they're the ones i tend to end up talking to. Kindred spirits I guess :D .

[pittgirl]

Go out with a bunch of guys, just don't make fools of yourself. It's ok to go out with a group of friends and still go and talk to other people, I do it all the time. I agree with coll214, I like the shy guys that are sitting in the corner doing nothing at all. Those are the ones I go and talk too. Usually the ones who are all over the girls and going and hitting on everyone are usually the sketchy ones. All depends on where you go I think, espicially if it is a club or a bar. I think good decent guys go to bars to hang out, talk with their freinds so forth. Sketchy wanna get a piece of a** go to clubs, to pick up girls and so forth. However though I do know some guys that like to dance and such, so I am nto saying all, just a majority of them that's all. I just find it odd sometimes a guy or two guys will go to a dance club to just "dance" like my best friend and I.