Guys & Sex!!!!

[Densel]

Damn! can't guys just pretend they are not even into sex? I know that's what they think about 24/7 but still...GIVE ME A F**KING BREAK!!!

Sorry guys just had to vent.

Thanks.

[and1grad]

Densel,
what brought that on?

[Densel]

ephphatha,

Yeah but why not be friendly and show some interest in other ways. There are so many other verbal and non-verbal ways to show interest without suggesting SEX.

Why not say, "I'm physically attracted to you and I think you are beautiful." rather than, "When are we going to have SEX?"

It's such a turn off even if I was initially interested in SEX with the guy.

[wordsmith]

Again, it's the one-track-ness of it all. Yawwwwn.

[Crimson King II]

Because few men have any type of solid foundation from which they can draw in order to communicate with anyone. Some of us are simply more blessed than others in that respect. And I will, unapologetically, count myself in that group of the few, the (semi-)eligible, and the best of the best!

[Densel]

Wordsmith,

Yep...and since I'm a woman we don't have to wonder what side of the track I'm on.

[Densel]

Crimson King II,

I'm sure not all men are this sexually forward and expressive...maybe I've just not been lucky enough to meet the select distinguishable few (like you) ;)

[kitalyn414]

Originally posted by Crimson King II
(semi-)eligible

:confused: have i missed something? i thought you were fully spoken for, mr. ck! or are you just leaving your hat in the ring due to the masculine-i'll-take-whatever-i-can-get-because-i-can't-help-it side of your persona????? :p

[Densel]

and1grad,

Oops! sorry, I didn't notice your post reply.

what brought that on?
This guy I'm dating, everything evolves around SEX. At first I thought maybe he's being funny so I laughed it off but I don't think he's joking! Every discussion ends up being sexual.

If we are planning on going out, he'll say, "Why don't we just stay home and get naked?"

If I tell him I am stressed with work, he'll say, "Maybe we should meet at your place and have sex. That will relax you."

If I say, "what do you want to do tonight? You want to go to this new club in Long Beach?" he'll respond, "You know what I want to do with you instead?"

Comments like that should be reserved for when we've known each other long enough and 3 weeks simply doesn't cut it. Urrgh! I'm done with this one.

[Crimson King II]

You're right Kit...I'm off the market. I just put semi because I'm not yet married or anything like that...I have to leave my fan base intrigued...sorta like when celebrities tell the world they're single because their publicist is afraid people will lose interest if they're taken. PR move only. C's my girl...none other for me!

The take whatever I can get thing reminds me of Starsky and Hutch:

Owen Wilson: "Do you prefer blondes or brunettes?"
Stiller: "Blondes"
Wilson: "Good, because I'll take whatever I can get."

[Crimson King II]

Densel...have you made it an issue with him. Have you said, "Um, you know....what are ya doin?"

Might help.

[Densel]

Crimson King II,

I thought about telling him but this is him. He's just being himself and me telling him I don't like what he says will mean him changing or pretending just to make me happy or shut me up or get me to bed.

The whole situation has just turned me off that at this point I don't even think it's worth discussing. If he can freely make every discussion sexual, he can easily do the same with any other girl. I refuse to be a pearl in his string of pearls...I deserve better.

Weirdbrake! where are you? I need my Weirdbrake!!:cry: I need you to tell me I deserve better. That always makes me feel soooo good!:D hehehe

[and1grad]

CK...I thought he said "Good, cause I'll take anything." Not that it matters.

Densel...I think you should buy him a small bottle of lotion and tell him to keep his hands to himself. What a whackjob. (pun intended)

[Crimson King II]

Yeah...either way it was funny.

[and1grad]

Wow...now thats game.

[kitalyn414]

Originally posted by Densel
I thought about telling him but this is him. He's just being himself and me telling him I don't like what he says will mean him changing or pretending just to make me happy or shut me up or get me to bed.maybe he thinks he is complimenting you by telling you how attractive you are to him. letting him know that you're not into that might make him change his tune. some people sexualize everything because they don't know any better. if you honestly like the guy, it can't hurt to bring it up. he will either stop doing it, or he won't. in that case you'll dump him and be better off.

[Densel]

WB,

Ahhh, you see? I feel better already...Kinda like the feeling one gets after a deep tissue massage! :D

[Densel]

kitalyn414,

Hmmm...I get what you are saying. Maybe it's his way of paying me a compliment. It's not like whenever he brings it up I'm like, "Yeah, honey, let's get naked!"

Maybe I should keep letting him know it aint going to happen anytime soon and if he goes away, then that's all he wanted to begin with. Sometimes some (not all) guys like the chase, they want what they can't have. Who knows...if I give it up, he probably might disappear. EASY COME; EASY GO.

Good point kitalyn414...good point.

However, the only defect is that I really don't have the patience to hear him go on and on about things he'll like to do to me (compliment or no compliment)? I might snap and slap him across the face once he goes too far with his sexual remarks.

[pittgirl]

I have been in the same situation before with a guy I was dating. You just need to tell him upfront that it truly bothers you and your not ready to go that far with him. He might be doing it to just joke around but if it still bothers you just tell him to stop or leave or walk away when he starts doing it.