Oh, I am SO in a QLC

[Eponine]

I've been reading the book. That's how I found out about this place. I"m so glad to know it's here, and will prolly come back frequently. I'm not even 20 yet! ( I will be in 2 months.) My biggest thing right now is trying to figure out who I am. I'm also engaged, and have struggled with making such a lifelong choice. And I'm so lonely. I need more friends than just my fiance, great as he is. I'll be back later to elaborate more. I'm still a soph in college, but I wonder what I'm going to do when I graduate. I don't even drive yet, so going back to live at home is most likely what I'll be doing. But I have more pressing matters at hand.
Fiance is graduating in 2 1/2 weeks. He's stressed. Perhaps I'll direct him here. Looking forward to coming back later.

[Jessica]

I think you need to chill out a bit. You seem to have the world on your shoulders for someone so young (don't mean to be patronising). I know that's easier said than done but by putting a different perspective on things it can be done.

Firstly it doesn't matter that you don't know what you want to do when you leave college - sometimes that can work out quite well because you're open minded to lots of possibilities. Many people work it out as they go along anyway - I didn't know what I wanted to do so I took a path that sounded interesting and since then I have taken a slight change in direction when the opportunity came up.

Secondly, it sounds to me like you're not 100% sure about this engagement thing. Far be it from me to say that you're too young, but I think you are right in saying you need more than just your fiance. Be careful you don't miss opportunities to do things with other people because you're spending all your time with him. Boyfriends can come and go but it is important to invest time in friendships.

Don't be pushed in to anything you're unsure of - have the courage of your own convictions and make sure you follow your own instincts.

As for finding who you are - it's a tough one and we all go through it. But don't waste time being scared, instead view it as an exciting opportunity to discover things about yourself and for yourself. Life is too short to waste time being miserable and afraid - especially when you're young and should be having fun.

Hope this doesn't sound condescending. Good luck...