I need advice please!

[elizabethlaine]

I have two aspects to my qlc. The professional side I can handle (as well as anyone), but the personal side is a problem. I've been dating my boyfriend since I was 15. I feel like it's maybe time to move on- but it's scary! Will I be giving up my one chance at a wonderful future, or will I find something more wonderful on my journey? I am so confused, I think I'm giving myself an ulcer! Any ideas for help?

[Remarkable]

Is your boyfriend ambitious? Does he respect you and your dreams, ideas, goals? Does he have friends of his own? Can he handle himself in social situations? If yes, he may be worth considering. But, if he is lacking in any of the above areas, or if you are in a dull, boring routine and just going through the motions, move on. It will be hard and there will be tears, but chances are you will end up getting what YOU want out of life and the whole dating thing.

I have been with my BF since I was 17. I will be 25 in August. He has no ambition, no goals, no dreams, no life besides me really. I have all of the above. Why do I stay? I love him, but I don't know why. I guess he is a link to the past, carefree days, new love, etc. But, my mind is telling me to go and eventually I will. We had broken up for 2 years and they were hell for me so I got him back, but now I'm wondering why. I was so much better off without him.

You have to do what feels right for you. No one can tell you what to do or what not to do. I speak from experience. People tell me all the time to get rid of him, etc. When you're ready (or not) you will. Not the greatest advice but the truth!

[elizabethlaine]

Thanks. I suppose I know that my life will go on, and probably with more excitement and passion, if I leave my boyfriend as part of my past. It is still hard, especially since it's not about a fight, but more about us growing apart. I'm sure the tears will continue to come. I just hope the decision I'm leaning towards turns out to be the right one.

[Anonymous]

Love is not a career choice. If it's not

obvious to you, there is something deeply

broken in your life and your outlook on life.

[Anonymous]

Well, it boils down to one question: Is the sex with your boyfriend still as hot and experimental as when you first met ? Or have you got into the lights out 10 minutes of fumbling and straight to sleep phase ?
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If you still have hot experimental sex /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif, there is hope for your relationship. Otherwise it is just habit, and you need to quit.

[Restless]

If the only reason you are still with him is because you are scared to be alone then I'd say the answer is pretty straight-forward. It's time to move on.

Easy for me to say...I know. Doing it is incredibly painful. I was in a similar situation. I think many of us have been there.

I dated a guy for 4 years (mostly through college) and when I graduated I came to the awful realization that the only reason that I was with him was because he was comfortable. Yes I loved him, because he was a great guy. But he was not the one for me, at least not anymore. What I found after I left him was wonderful. I won't go into all of that now. But despite the fear, I'm 100 times happier then I was then - both with my life and with myself.

People come into our lives at certain times for certain reasons. Not everyone is meant to stay. We still need to learn from our experiences with them, because every experience leads to another.

[miner]