Life is really just a random series of events...

[Remarkable]

I've decided. Everything happens eventually, just not when you want it to and not necessarily when you are ready for it to. I will be the dreaded 25 in August and I wish I could be 21 again. Life was great then. Anyway, I have three Associate's Degrees and three certificates and am planning on taking the Certified Internet Webmaster certification exam in October but I stay at my current job (mid 20's pay)because it is the only thing that is safe and going to work is almost comforting. I've dated the same guy since I was 17 and I have totally outgrown him although I love him. I should break up with him but I don't want to be the 'mean' one. Why can't he just do it? He has no ambition so I guess having a girlfriend is just great for his good enough life. I know what I want, but don't know how to get it. I still live at home, although I am supposed to be moving out in October. I think that will make me feel more secure in this world--that yes, I, can make it on MY own, make MY own decisions without asking everyone else's advice.

The point of this post is, I guess, that things will fall into place. I never thought I'd get this job I have but I did. I never thought I'd ever have the money to move out, but I kind of do, I never thought I'd be 'over' my boyfriend, but I am. I want a new one, but, I guess when it's meant to happen it will.

Everyone, just remember, things will eventually fall into place, even if you don't really do anything other than live and work. It's being patient that sucks.

[elizabethlaine]

Do you still love your boyfriend? I still love mine, but I feel like we are going in seperate directions. I'm content in my relationship, but not particularly happy. Is that a sign that I should move on? Sorry I didn't have any insight for you, but you are being a big help to someone who needs it!

[Remarkable]

I love my boyfriend, but I'm not in love with him, if that makes any sense. I think if we broke up, we'd still be friends. He is very content with our relationship. I'm not. I am bored and scared at the same time. I only see him about once a week, and sometimes that is too much. He doesn't seem to care that it's only once a week, so sometimes I think he's just too lazy to give it up. We have definitely grown in different directions. I guess if you can't picture him as part of your future, it's time to move on. I look at some of my friends who are in great relationships and they are 'happy' about 95% of the time. My other friends have these 'dead end' relationships and are happy when they are not with their BF's. So, happiness is more important than contentness. I guess some will say I'm not one to talk, but at the same time, by talking, it's helping me to see the whole picture of my relationship, or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

Love is about respect and tolerance. It's

just one of those things you learn as part

of growing up; any relationship that

centers on "what am I getting out of it"

is childish and self-destructive.

[Remarkable]

Where did any of us say "What are we getting out of it?"

I never said I didn't respect my BF, just that we have grown apart and he lacks ambition. Tolerance can be good or bad.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should fool around with someone else but keep it a secret from your boyfriend. I was in a similar situation, I had been dating my boyfriend since I was 18 (I'm now 23). I met this older guy at a bar and we went back to his place, and the sex was incredible. He did things I had never dreamed of, which my boyfriend refused to do. (he performed cunnilingus on me, and we enjoyed anal sex, and watersports). <p>
It was the biggest eye-opener of my life. I was always a 'good girl' until then. Now I creep around behind my boyfriends back having great sex with the guy I met in the bar.<p>
He does not want to commit, but thats fine by me, so long as he continues to go down on me and make me feel like a real, attractive woman, and not like an 18-year old girl.<p>
Sure it will hurt when I inevitably break up with my boyfriend, but he is so unadventurous in bed, and unwilling to try new things, he only has himself to blame.<p>
My advice: Go and hang out in a bar, and keep an open mind. You never know what you might find out about yourself. For example I thought anal sex was disgusting until I actually tried it. Now I sometimes prefer it to 'normal' sex.<p>
Broaden your horizons. You only get one life. Live it to the full!!! /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[Anonymous]

Everything else in my life is incredibly confusing right now, but the one thing I am sure about is that my man is the right one for me, and I want to be with him always. We always, always look forward to seeing each other and enjoy each other's company, after 2 years. I believe that everyone can find someone that doesn't bore them, but makes them feel passion and fire...I think it would be a shame to settle for less, especially when you recognize that you are not happy. Just wanted to let you know that it is possible, and you shouldn't give up!!

[miner]

[Anonymous]

Your subject title reminded me of a line in Jane Austen's novel (and movie) Mansfield Park... "Life is nothing more than a quick succession of busy nothings..." Anyway...

21 was great? Well, (I'm at that age) sometimes it is... but other days I just want to crawl into a hole and end it all... But you crawl out the next day and start again. When we're younger it's always "I can't wait until I'm....." And then when you hit that age... "I wish I was..."
I wish I was...