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[Unregistered]

A strange thing happened to me recently. I am in a relationship with a great guy, and things were going really great. We have dated for a few months and I felt like I was in love with him (and I know he is in love with me), and all of a sudden, my feelings for him changed. There was nothing (that I can think of) that prompted this other than I felt very comfortable with him (as opposed to the initial dating jitters). It has really been stressing me out because I don't want to make a mistake and leave him, but I don't know how to get past this feeling. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks!

[malaynab]

Can you spend some time away from him? I went through something similar a few years ago. I was living with the bf though, which made it difficult to get away from him. I took a week and went on a trip without him. I didn't totally cut ties or anything, just got out of the area. I found that I missed him and was not just bored with him, but was unhappy with myself as well as our arrangement. Maybe you could do something similar. If you don't live with him, that makes it that much easier. Don't call it "needing some time" or "a break". (he may flip out) Don't mention what's going on at all. Just make up an excuse to have some apart time for a while and see what happens. Good luck!


Malayna