who makes the first move?

[joneshen]

dazed: do you guys take the tradition view "let the guy initiate" or do you take the progressive view "it's the 00s! let's go for it girls!"

moving this here, because i feel this deserves its own thread ;)

[Phoenix]

I've done both. Personally, I prefer for the guy to initiate.

[TranquilSkye]

let me initiate or prepare to be rejected hehehe.

[dazed]

awesome!! i guess i didn't realize this could be its own thread.

anyway, my views...i think the guy should initiate. in some things are quite progressive but in dating, for the most part, i'm traditional. the guy should initiate. without being forceful of course. there's a fine line there. i know it sucks for the guy cuz he doesn't really know the girl so well and isn't sure if she wants to initiate or not. sucks for guys!

[kitalyn414]

initiate what? like approaching someone or making a "move"?

[Phoenix]

Exactly it. (Unless we were talking about chess and I missed it.) ;) This discussion is much more interesting though.

[paperjam1015]

I vote for the guys...however sometimes a woman just has to take things in her one hands...;)

[wordsmith]

99% of the time I will wait on the guy to initiate, not because I'm especially traditional, but because I'm super sensitive and will wait it out rather than initiate and run the risk of getting rebuffed or burned.