Growing apart from friends?

[Tayl405]

I just have a kinda random question that has been on my mind lately...

A really good friend of mine, who I met when I came to college, and I have nothing in common anymore. She lives about 2 hours away now, and I love her to death, but it's almost more of a hassle to keep up than it's worth. I know it sounds HORRIBLE, and it's not like I care about her any less, but there's just not much to talk about anymore.

Do I fade out the friendship, or try to find something in common again? I don't like her any less.

[pisces2473]

JOIN THE CLUB! Grrr, I don't have any advice, but I'm there w/ ya!

[kimmer23]

we have had similar thread to this one in the past....but we all seem to be going through the same thing. i dont really have any advice except that some people decide to end friendships like these if things arent going anywhere or one party doesnt ever contact the other party (if one person is always doing the calling or emailing).

i mentioned to pisces that i wished we all lived in the same state. we all get along so well on these boards, but we all are scattered around.

[shimmer728]

Actually, I was just thinking today about how much I miss my old friends from school. :cry:

[coll214]

The way i see it, if all that's different is you don't have much in common, embrace that part of your friendship if you still get along. Talk about what's been going on in your lives and compare. I have a few friends that we have little in common and we still get along great (most of the time :p ). The differences are what makes everyone interesting. Life would be boring if we're all alike. As long as you still like them and get along, i see no valid reason to just drop friends.

[Tayl405]

Yeah, I don't want to just drop her because I do really like her. It's just such a pain in the ass to get together or even talk on the phone because we have such different schedules. I feel guilty because sometimes it takes me forever to call her back and I think she thinks I blow her off when she comes to town, but I really just don't have TIME to hang out. (It probably seems like I do since I'm on here all the time lately, but really I am at work! lol) Maybe when she moves back to Philly in a couple months things will be normal again.

[pisces2473]

That's what email is good for. Or letters. Write her. That way you can talk w/out time :) That's what I do w/ my one friend who lives 3 hrs away, is married, and is very busy. We hardly ever chat on the phone. We email. It's the only way.

[Tayl405]

I don't even know what I would do without email. I can't remember what it was like beforehand! Now it's my favorite method of communication (at least for friends who I don't see regularly).

[winneythepooh7]

This has happened with me with most of my friends I was super close with in college. I even was the maid of honor in one of my friend's wedding's and we don't even really talk anymore. Most of my close friends from the past haved moved away and I am now much more of a loner now. I think part of that is due to my busy schedule, and the fact that I'd much rather go home and go to sleep after work then socialize. It is good to catch up regularly though with good friends and not completely cut all ties.

[kimmer23]

i have been emailing some friends this whole week that i havent talked to in a while. i get really pissed when people dont call me back or keep up their end of the friendship. but curiosity go the better part of me and some of us are actually getting together tomorrow night. another friend i am gonna hang out with over labor day (with my husband and her boyfriend).

should we all just give in sometime? i guess i'll find out after tomorrow night whether it was worth it or not.