First Kiss

[Unregistered]

Do you think that women want to be kissed at the end of the first date? If so, what signs should a guy look for? Or, do women like guys that just "go for it" and risk rejection?

College was a little bit easier because everyone was drinking a little "liquid courage" I guess!!

[Phoenix]

For me it varies. It depends on how comfortable I feel with the guy and what kinds of signals I'm picking up from him as well. I suppose guys should look for the same things girls look for - i.e. Are they interested? Having a good time and laughing a lot (genuinely)? Seem bored? Look like they want to run far, far away from this horrible evening? You get the picture.

Language (flirty or not flirty) and body language will probably tell you a lot about comfort level. If the person doesn't mind getting close to you, puts a hand on your arm when pointing something out, doesn't cringe or shy away if your hands happen to brush when walking next to each other, etc. then they're probably fairly comfortable. If they seem to keep their distance more, then they may not be ready for that end of the night kiss.

One suggestion would be to give her a good night hug and see how well that goes over (if you sense that things are going OK of course). If she is really stiff, awkward, or uncomfortable about it...i'd say no on the kiss. But if she's pretty warm and receptive, you may want to try for it.

I've had one guy ask if he could kiss me goodnight, which was nice b/c he was respectful, although it was maybe a little awkward? I've also several guys just go for it and I didn't mind...but the body language and flirtiness was clear between us.

Overall, besides the above, I think it comes down to this: it depends on the woman and on the situation. Use your best judgement and I think you'll be OK. :)

[Antonina]

I have had good experiences with "gentle but confident" pecks, either on the cheek or on the lips. I think the lips is a little better if you are interested (and of course only if they've seemed interested in you all night too). Make sure the peck is not wimpy though- there is nothing worse than something that feels like a prelude to a runner. Pecking is less invasive especially if you are not sure if they are up for a pash, and can always get converted into a pash later depending on the reaction!

Mmm. That was a bit of a waffle about nothing... what does everyone else think?

[michalmm]

I think it depends on how the date goes. I have had no problem with guys who really went in for a good kiss on the first date and I loved it. But I think I was pretty good about sending clear signals that it was ok (eye contact, no stiffness, ect...). There are other guys I couldn't way to run out of the car away from, change my name and leave the state. But for the most part they got the message (no real eye contact, bad body language, ect...)

Kissing is fine on the first date, with or without "liquid courage" and you will know what to do when you see it!! :-)

[True-Believer]

I agree... you will know from how the girl is acting (body language and spoken) whether she will accept a good kiss from a guy on the first date.

hehe, talking about this makes me remember the first time I kissed my boyfriend. We kissed on our first date, but it was something we both wanted. It was literally the most perfect kiss! Like in the movies ;o) And it's been great ever since

[michalmm]

I thought I was the only one that has had moments that were so perfect that they were movie like! I remember the first kiss with the boy I used to love. Perfect, just perfect. Even if things didn't work out in the end it was just that moment, and nothing can take away from it.

[True-Believer]

very true! My guy and I are together now still and even though we have had our share of misunderstandings (i.e. fights LOL), when we think back on that moment...... definately a scene from the movies!