a second 1/4 life crisis - or just a continuation?

[Lipgloss Boost]

when i first read the book & got to the part that says a typical grad's first job is as a glorified secretary, i almost dropped the book in my cappucino! i have a BA in Sociology/Criminology & at that time, one year experience as a crisis intervention worker. so my job applied to my degree how? it was money. i was contract - which meant impending unemployment. the good thing about that was that with going into the social services & more specifically corrections - i may need to know my way around the UI office a couple more times in my career! anyway....

so i decided to get my Correctional Worker diploma in Ottawa. i'm done my first year & now have 2 years experience as a crisis intervention worker. nobody will hire me for the summer! i have a BA, 1/2 of a degree, 2 years experience, & one year in administration experience. welll....

last night i found out my old contract job became available again. (this part may get complex.) my parents & this woman Maggie, blackmailed me into this 12 month lease in Ottawa which i did *not* want. Maggie works in Executive at the same company as my mother & has *bags* of money. her 21 year-old son is my landlord, & yes, i'm 25. well! this company didn't inform myself or my mother that my old job was available. Maggie's been calling, asking me how the job-hunt is going, told me her daughter just found work at an ice cream store.

last night i found out this little girl left that summer job & now HAS MY OLD CONTRACT JOB! my mother *freaked*! she went storming over to my land-lord's mother in Executive & asked her why she wasn't informed her daughter's old job was available when she *knew* i've been busting my ass looking for a job & her daughter already has a job? then she went to HR & asked why the hell neither she nor i was informed the job was available. they said gee, if they knew i was back from Ottawa they would've preferred me. so why the f*ck didn't they call me or walk across the office & say "Hey? Is your kid back in town? her old job's available for the summer..."?

i am *so* angry! i got f*cked was what i got! by my landlord's mother who, as i said, forced me to live with her idiot son in the first place! i hate this woman with a passion. my mother & i are going to try & get her daughter let-go & out of that job so i can get in! (of course this doesn't thrill my significant other who wants me back in Ottawa, "but i thought you were only visiting for 3 weeks?" - i told him to back-off & that i don't need this right now)

the world revolves around $ & i don't understand why a family who has millions of $ (both this little girl & my landlord inherited one million when Maggie's parents died - hence why my landlord is 21 & has a house!) needs *my* job & why the insist on f*cking me in the rear!

sorry. just give me some empathy. this really sucks.

[sunbear]

Hi Lipgloss,
To do the lady a favor by renting out her apartment and then being betrayed- I hear ya, people can suck.
The only thing I can say is find a way to get out of that lease-
turn the other cheek, and spend all of your time getting a job. I hope this recession lets up soon, we all need to be working! It sounds like your boyfriend misses you too.
Sometimes I think when people come into money, things become some sort of control *game*- I got trapped in something almost two years ago. I kind of got stuck living with a stranger (long story) living in a new city, scary as it is. The roomie was a rich kid with no clue of reality. Completely pathetic to me I was trying to get through a 6 hour test when I was living there in order to keep my job. My job is challenging and has odd hours. The kid who is even older than me did (didn't need to be employed(??))
what he could to stir up rackus, belittle me, was basically your hyped up stuck up jerk. My grandmother died a week before I took this test and I ended up flunking on the first try- really bad. I needed to move (my parents were willing to help me at this point) so that I can at least keep this job. I paid the roomie $$ for an ad to find a new roomie, I was straight up with him. He badgered me badly after that- saying things like "Women know nothing about the law, only men know the law..." I found a new place by myself and I ended up moving out when he wasn't home- by the advice of everyone who lived at the place or knew the guy. Two weeks later I recieved a call AT WORK
by the police who said that I was accused of stealing an expensive piece of jewelry that I totally forgot that he owned. I went to the cop station afterwards to clear my name- and discovered that he was in jail before and in a lot of other trouble with the cops. NO concept of reality, the kid has no degree or intellegence and got a job that would take most people a masters to even get, drove a sports car, etc... Anyways- It took everything in me to never look back, not even for revenge. The good news is that I finally passed the test. :0) I know that I could've sued him for slander, I just wanted to rid myself of him and go on with my life.
To them its just a game and how sad it is that they can't pick on someone their own size. Is there anything wrong with the apartment? Could you find anyway out of that lease? Best of luck to you-

[drifter]

Hey Lipgloss

Can you break the lease? In Australia, you give 4 weeks notice and thats it.
I moved out of a place about 2 months ago. I was an idiot though because even though legally, I had to give 4 weeks notice before breaking the lease, i gave 2 months notice to my co-tenants to give them a chance to find someone else (so paid two months rent unnecessarily - what a sucker I am)

Anyway, do you have family or a good friend in Ottawa that you can move back in with short term until you find a job or something? Is your mom in Ottawa? (My guess is No). I guess just somewhere where people will be nice to you and care about you for a couple of weeks until you find something.
If you aren't working in Ottawa, can you move to a different state to be with your family for a bit if you have no job-ties there?

I guess I dont know your situation, but I was feeling pretty shit in the place I was in and when I finally told them to fuck off and I broke the lease and moved home with mom, I felt a bit better (even though she drives me nuts at times).

All that stuff is tough, you sort of just have to write out a list of where you would like to be in two months and work out the best, most feasible option - like what is your first preference for a job, and if that isn't available now (or has been taken by your bitch landlords sister or whatever it was) then what is your next option for work.
It sounds like you have good work experience and know your area well, so things should pick up soon. Good luck.

[Lipgloss Boost]

i wanted to thank you all for your support. good news is - i just got a job! (which i'll do another post for...)

weirdbrake: i like this power imbalance idea.... i'll lock that away in my head!

drifter: my guys' parents suggested i move in with them. they said it would decrease the stress on everybody. i disagree/disagreed. thanks for the support!

sunbear: *hugs* if you ever need me. you were the 1st to offer a shoulder (is it still a shoulder when you're on the 'Net?) & that mans alot!

[sunbear]

Good Job Lip Gloss Boot!
Thank you for sharing the news, it's really great to hear that you have something now.
How's the living thing, have you moved yet or are you going to stay in that apartment?
by the way, it sounds like your boyfriend missed you- sounds like you've got a good one!

[Lipgloss Boost]

i'm going to stay at this place (if i can hack it!) becuz it's cheap & you don't have to sign a lease after the first year, legally in Canada. i fly out tomorrow for my new job @ The Schizophrenic Society! & yes, i get to see Clint - he's the most amazing young man. :)