Advice Por Favor!

[aloha]

Hello friends,

I am new to this QLC thing, but I have some hopes and dreams and questions, but all the answers seem to have flown away...

I graduated from University in August 2002 with a BA in Communications. I, unfortunately, fell in with the wrong guy and got engaged that December....big mistake, at that point I was still pretty confident about myself and life...actually the load of life was still not on me as I was not employed full time and had moved back home...unfortunately we broke it off this May for good bc he cheated on me and it had been very rocky since August 2003. I had a boyfriend throughout college and after for like the past 6 years, now I am alone, living at home, am not sure what I want to do with my life and feel so lost and confused...what is the point of it all????????????

I was so much more ambitious and confident about everything up until the beginning of 23. Then due to family health problems and my own personal stuff, my balance is not there...

I find myself thinking way to much about rubbish thoughts..and sometimes I have so many conversations in my head I don't know what is going on. I get confused in daily life...what is going on with me?

Can anyone help?

BTW I have been teaching since April after travelling abroad for about 6 months and b4 that I was doing a teacher training course.

My dream has always been to live and work at the beach...laid back serene and peaceful just enjoying the sceneery...I was never afraid of moving away on my own and doing things in the past before...but ever since this who QLC thing started rearing its ulgy head....irrational fears have surfaced. What's up with that? why so much self doubt?

[iwanttoscream]

I think it comes with the territory - I have felt the same thing. It sucks and I feel like I am being irrational sometimes. For me, it seems as if all the decisions I am making now directly affect my future and it scares the hell out of me. I have become much more cautious and aware, whereas I used to be carefree and laidback and thought things would always shake out in the end. If you have dreams I say go for them. This is the time when you have the opportunity - you don't have kids or a spouse to answer to and if you fall on your ass then you only have yourself to answer to - no one else. I guess a lot of people our age feel this way - hence the term "Quarterlife Crisis."

I am from Raleigh - do you like it here?

[paperjam1015]

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GO PANTHERS!!!!!

[aloha]

hello yeah raleigh is not the best place to live...i mean i have biased views as I have been here in NC in and out all my life...
I mean it's like a stopping point
:p

Where are you at in Raleigh and what do you do?

[djs1977]

Originally posted by aloha

My dream has always been to live and work at the beach...laid back serene and peaceful just enjoying the sceneery...I was never afraid of moving away on my own and doing things in the past before...but ever since this who QLC thing started rearing its ulgy head....irrational fears have surfaced. What's up with that? why so much self doubt?

Wanna come to Australia with me??:D I'm actually going to be trying to find a job along the beach somewhere...

[iwanttoscream]

Originally posted by aloha
Where are you at in Raleigh and what do you do?

I live right off of Glenwood - I work at Farm Bureau - the huge complex right after Crabtree Valley Mall. I like Raleigh but I haven't been here for too long. I actually think it is a little too large. I am from the Outer Banks and am used to things a little smaller. I went to college in Greensboro though so it isn't too much of a change.