life sucks ...

[ragingeek76]

Ever since I've graduated from college, I've felt like my life has gotten progressively worse. Does anyone else feel this way? I'm 28 years old and I feel like my life is going nowhere. I am "successful" in normal terms (I have a decent paying job, own my own home, have good health, nice friends, etc.), but none of this seems to make me happy.

I'm seriously thinking of seeing a psychiatrist soon. Some days I can barely wake up in the morning, since I find what I do so unfulfilling...

[stonemonkey]

man, have you seen/read fight club? coz it sounds like you're living it.

i think you're problem's a common one, society's told us what it is that we need to do to be happy, that is, to be 'successful' on society's terms. we go ahead, put our heads down and pursue it, and in your case, achieve it.

maybe there's a feeling that you get when you know that you've made a difference, that your life is worth something more than some sort of financial profit.

ragingeek76, what would it take for you to feel fulfilled, like you've *done* something?

[luvWizard]

hey there buddy - well - i read what u've posted and i can truely understand how you feel cuz until a little while ago, I kindaa felt the same way. To be honest, the best solution i can figure is you need a good change, maybe a change of atmosphere or something would do you some good, or perhaps a fulfilling relationship - where someone in their own special way shows you how much of a positive difference you make in their life.

When you make up each morning, know this much that you are a good peron, no...ur a great person - you have friends - ppl who really care about you and even though they might not show it as much - need you to be around - depend on you for support...you're an all rounder - u've achieved some of the things in life many are still struggling to attain...i seriously feel you need a slight change and that should do you some good - i don't think you need a psychiatrist or anything of the sort - when you need to talk, you could awaayz come back here or talk to one of ur best mates....just hang in there buddy and keep us posted....U take good care now....

[Skyblade]

ragingeek76...have you ever tried volunteering for something that you really believe in? do you have any spiritual beliefs that give your life meaning?

For me, those are the things that make me feel valuable in some way, but I know its hard.

[teebes]

I feel very much the same way. I think I'm going to start volunteering somewhere, hopefully doing things for others will give me some sense of purpose, I don't know.

But yeah, I feel really empty right now.

Let me know if you find a way out!

[ragingeek76]

I guess I generally feel unfulfilled by my day-to-day existence. I really dislike the corporate 9 to 5 (more like 9 to 6, since I generally take long lunches.) I feel like I should be doing something more with my life, but I don't quite know what that is.

I run a small consulting business on the side, and I really enjoy that. I would very much just like to go out and do my own thing. (Then I would have no one to blame for my misery, except for myself... which is what I think scares me.)

As for the "faith" aspect... I am agnostic, and was never much into organized religion. I believe there is a "spiritual side" to life, but it has more to do with a cosmic consciousness, syncronicity, and connections between all people/things, rather than any type of higher power.

(I also wish I could find a significant other - any geeky girls in the southern New England area? But that's another problem entirely...)

Anyways, it's good just knowing there's other people out there who feel the same...

RG

[teebes]

I hear you ragingeek76, very much so. And I also know what you mean when you say that you have no-one to blame for your problems but yourself. A scary thought, and I feel that it's happening to me nowadays. I'm responsible, and I'm feeling empty. No more parents to blame! damnit!

One thing though is, I too would really like to find someone to be with, girlfriend or wife or whatever, just someone stable to be in a simple relationship with. No great drama, no big words, just a nice comfortable day to day life. But part of me feels that what I need to learn most right now is to learn to be happy by myself, without needing anyone else to make me happy. I think once I achieve that, everything else will fall into place.

But the thought of not having a girlfriend, as scary as it is coming out of a 2 year relationship that I thought would end in marriage, and the ability to be comfortable and happy with that, is quite a task, imho :(

Okay now I'm just rambling!