Public Apology

[MOS9904]

I have made rude comments, and I have disgraced the QLC community with negativity. I have sent harassing PMs to people on these boards. For that I apologize.

And to Jen, I have said thoughtless and careless things to which I apologize as well. In the past, and present.

Please accept my apology, I am deeply and sincerely sorry for my actions.

[paiger81]

No one ever said you were a waste of space. But civility is always a plus when talking to a person. At times you lacked civility and your arrogance can be overwhelming.

If it makes you feel any better, you are not the most arrogant person I have ever known.:D

[MetFanL]

I hope you are being sincere, MOS. I can't tell...

I'm reading this post and, from what I know about your personality on this board, a few of your comments are coming across as sarcastic.

The use of the word "apparently" makes me think that you are cutting and pasting from whatever note the mods sent you b/c you truly don't believe you've done anything wrong here. So, you need other people's words to achieve the desired result.

on edit: MOS edited her original posts. I have chosen not to edit mine b/c her original text spoke volumes to me about her questionable sincerity. I wish I could be a little less cynical about this, but it's just not happening.

[paiger81]

I'm a little wary, as well, especially when I first posted my response, she had 2 posts with various apologies on it........now the 2nd post(which included a line "I am just a waste of space") is gone.

I am willing to give the benefit of a doubt, though.

[gluegun]

I think that I'm the only person on this board who has yet to figure out why there is all this drama surrounding MOS.

Which is why I am staying out of it.

[kitalyn414]

hmmmm, i'm with met on this. what was the motivation for this apology?

[GetMeOuttaDC]

No gluegun, you would be half of the unenlightened...

[paiger81]

Gluegun-
I know she was arrogant, but that isn't a crime. I'm not sure about the other stuff.

[mgp2]

MOS9904 has harassed and insulted people via PM repeatedly. Now she is apologizing for it. That's pretty much what's going on.

[heatherf]

Here's my take on the whole thing...and this is simply from PMs I've had with MOS, and how she is on the board. Some other people on here also know that I feel this way:

MOS is on here because just like us she needs friends. I know that she has said not nice things in the past and has fibbed on stuff too. But she keeps coming back on here even though people keep bashing her and let's just say vice versa. Why does she keep coming back? Because she just wants to fit in like the rest of us and be considered normal.

Now, I can choose to hold a grudge or be mad at her cause of something she said to my best friend on the boards (Jen), but I just don't. I have too many skeletons in my own closet for me to do so (the whole glass house comes to mind).

BY ALL MEANS, I am not trying to give MOS sympathy here at all. Yah, so she posts differently than the rest of us a lot....but shit- I'd like to think that all of you are never gonna kick me off or ignore me.

I don't care if I am unpopular with people on here for thinking this way- I'm too freaking old and life is too short for me not to forgive and move on.

[pisces2473]

Dammit, I didn't see the original and I was one of the people involved.

[paiger81]

Brava, HEATHER, BRAVA:D :D :D

[pisces2473]

I was willing to forgive/forget...but then it started up again...

Don't worry, Heather. I still like you.

[WeirdBrake]

I basically agree with Heather. Life is too short to hold a grudge. But I also think that if MOS is truly interested in having friends on here, she'd start showing a little respect. A "different" style of posting is fine. Rudeness isn't.

[MetFanL]

I don't care if I am unpopular with people on here for thinking this way- I'm too freaking old and life is too short for me not to forgive and move on

I tend to agree, Heather. However, a thread about a public apology isn't going to change anything for me. Let me see it in her posts and I'm all about forgiving.

[pisces2473]

I agree with Heather's point about moving on...but also Met's about wanting to see change. If people really want to be here, they'd better act like it.

[LakeJay]

I agree with heather and I will also add there is an ignore list. I haven't used it but if it's a feature on here, use it. Out of sight, out of mind.

[gluegun]

I for one will be glad when all this tension dies down. It is harshing my mellow man.

[flyogagrl]

I think I missed something in my drugged haze of tylenol cold, afrin and zicam......i have no idea what is going on!

[MetFanL]

This board has an ignore feature?!?!?

[paiger81]

I think I missed something in my drugged haze of tylenol cold, afrin and zicam......i have no idea what is going on!

To Recap: Many moons ago, MOS was rude and arrogant. People forgave/chose to ignore her. Recently, she felt the need to go back to her old arrogant ways, including sending bad PM's to people. Fast Forward to today: MOS chose/forced to apologize, QLCers are skepical, but willing to give it a shot.

Any questions?

[cheshrcarol]

I agree with what Heather, Jen and Met have said. I also think that some things with this situation have gotten out of hand, but for the most part I can't blame people because they have felt insulted and lied to.

MOS, I'm going to come right out and say that there have been several of your posts that have bothered me or made me feel bad. There have been several times when it seems like you have posted details about your life specifically to either make yourself feel good or others feel bad; i.e. the cost of your condo, the amount in your bank accounts, and the amount of friends you go out with. It's not even so much what you say, but how you say it. You once made a comment about pitying your roommate because she didn't have a whole lot of friends to hang out with and never went anywhere because she had no friends. I would just like you to remember that when you say things like that it's hurtful to many of us who don't have a lot of friends in our immediate areas to hang out with.

If you are truly sorry about how you have made some people feel, then I don't think you should be discluded from the boards. But you need to realize that most people are here because they are in "crisis". I'm sure none of us begrudge anyone their good fortune and are truly happy for people whose lives start to take a turn for the better, but again it's all about the tone and how it's presented.

[heatherf]

Can I just tell all of you (since it's mainly us girls here) how emotional I am today and have been the last couple days....and this crap isn't helping???!!!:neutral:

[Phoenix]

Met - thanks for letting us know that the original post was modified/edited. That speaks volumes.

Paige - Yes, someone DID say she was a waste of space and it was me. I have no reservations and make no apology for saying it. The only times MOS has posted have been to brag or try make herself seem 'better' than other people on the boards, while trying to hide her identity through lies or avoiding the questions that others asked of her.

I agree with the other comments that if you want to be on these boards you should act like it. Which will only be seen in future posts.

Onward...

[kitalyn414]

Originally posted by MetFanL
This board has an ignore feature?!?!? i always forget about that. crazy that you could just be posting right along & people may never see what you write because they blocked you. :neutral:

[heatherf]

Good Point Kita! I would ask if anyone has me on "ignore"...but how would they ever know that I asked it if they did???:confused:

Fess up! I wanna know OR (please see my last post) I'm gonna start crying!

[paiger81]

Originally posted by Phoenix
Paige - Yes, someone DID say she was a waste of space and it was me. I have no reservations and make no apology for saying it. The only times MOS has posted have been to brag or try make herself seem 'better' than other people on the boards, while trying to hide her identity through lies or avoiding the questions that others asked of her.


Ok, but did anybody think she may be doing these things to make herself FEEL BETTER about herself, and that by attacking her, it might make her worse? It seems ironic to not like someone because they are negative when your response to them is just as negative. Instead of attacking, maybe showing her what is proper might help.

[MetFanL]

i just tested the ignore thing... if you put someone on ignore, you can see that they posted and you can have a "click here to read this post" option. cool.

[pisces2473]

Originally posted by paiger81
Ok, but did anybody think she may be doing these things to make herself FEEL BETTER about herself, and that by attacking her, it might make her worse? It seems ironic to not like someone because they are negative when your response to them is just as negative. Instead of attacking, maybe showing her what is proper might help.
I think she does it to make herself feel better. But when one tries to explain or show the proper way, it is ignored or taken too literally.

[paiger81]

I get that, pisces, I'm just thinking that telling someone they are a waste of space, seems way more harsh, than someone saying "I have $15000 in my checking account".

[pisces2473]

I get what you're saying...I agree...but I've seen both Tank and MOS's actions...

[gluegun]

I still don't think there was anything wrong with the "how much is in your checking" thread. We talk about money issues all the time.

If I recall correctly, the "how much money do you earn" thread was a big hit.

[paiger81]

I don't know. To me, it's not that big of a deal. I mean, yeah, MOS is as annoying as a Mosquito. But what she says(or what others say, for that matter) on this forum should be taken with a grain of a salt. I mean, for all we know, she is a 13 year old computer geek(no offense to other computer geeks) who gets their jolly's from upsetting relatively successfull twenty-something's.

[Phoenix]

Originally posted by paiger81
Instead of attacking, maybe showing her what is proper might help.

As Jen stated, she's been shown and she's had her chances. MORE than enough in my opinion. Maybe harshness is what she needs for a wakeup call.

[paiger81]

But, obviously harshness hasn't worked. Why is this that big of a deal? She is an annoying person....NEWSFLASH..... the world is full of them.


Now, as lovely as this thread has been, it is time for me to head on home. Goodnight, everybody:D

[Phoenix]

Originally posted by paiger81
But, obviously harshness hasn't worked. Why is this that big of a deal?

Frankly, I don't know. But people keep feeling the need to post about it.

Like I said previously:

ONWARD....