Need opinion on what to do, HELP!!!

[nygirl07]

Ok, I had this guy friend/potential SO that I met on a vacation. He lives about 2 hrs from me and when we got back from our trip we talked all them time and we would get together in the city every couple of months. Well, after a while the phone calls came few and far b/w on both of our parts. We both have crazy lives and I understood that. Then, he used the excuse that his phone broke on him for a second time and after watching Oprah's "He's just not that into you", I convinced myself that he didn't want to talk to me anymore so I stopped calling him and I haven't heard from him either. It's been almost 3 months, which isn't crazy long for me b/c I have friends that I speak to every couple of months b/c of our jobs and life just gets crazy.

The problem is, lately I've been wanting to contact him to see how things are going, but I feel weird. I don't want to call unexpectadly but I was going to email him and just say HI. Would this be wrong or weird and should I just back off, or is it OK. I never really thought about it until recently b/c I keep getting this weird urgency that I should contact him.

Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks

[Tbone]

I think it's ok to contact him, BUT you should be prepared for him not wanting to reciprocate. Also, he might have a GF now, etc, etc. Just prepare yourself for both a warm and cold reception, so that you won't be caught off guard if he says something you don't like.

[gluegun]

This guy isn't that into you. As long as you recognize this and set appropriate expectations, I think it would be Ok if you e-mailed him.

[pisces2473]

Haven't you posted about this guy before? I would think that if he really was into you on more than a casual email level, that he would be contacting you more frequently. I think it's clear that he's not into you "like that." Haven't we been saying this all along?

[WeirdBrake]

Why would you possibly want to contact this guy?

[nygirl07]

that this all sounds stupid. I know he's not that into me in a romatic way but when we hung out we had a great time and I have some of my best memories with him and I think I miss that. I'm not looking to be in a relationship with him anymore, it's more that I miss his friendship. I was over this whole topic for the last 2 months but now I keep getting this feeling that I should call him. Also, last night I got a phone call at 1 in the morning from blocked call and I didn't answer it and as soon as it stopped ringing something made me think it could of been him. I really haven't thought about him much recently but lately I miss talking to him and I feel like there may be a reason that I keep thinking about him.

I guess it just one of those things that if you don't do you'll always wonder but if you do it you may regret, but I think I'm the kind of person who would wonder more then regret.

Thanks

[winneythepooh7]

Any guy that is calling at 1 in the morning, hmmmm, wonder what he is looking for?

I wouldn't bother. I've always felt, and call me "traditional", but the guy should be the one doing the pursuing. If he hasn't, that says something right there.

[inuts]

Go ahead and contact him. He's probably super shy and is playing it safe. He probably thinks that if you don't call it's because you're not interested. Take the intiative. Guys are so scared off and gunshy when it comes to dealing with women these days that you can't be indirect. Besides, you'll be prouder of yourself for having been brave.

[jlynn]

If it's his friendship you really miss, I can't see the harm in emailing him a quick hello to see how he's doing and what's new. Emailing is more casual and not as intrusive as a phone call. Be prepared for either his saying he's real busy or not getting an answer at all. He's most likely not interested romantically.