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ShawnInPA
12-14-2004, 11:32 PM
Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself to you and tell you a little bit about myself. My name is Shawn, and I'm 26 years old and living in Bethlehem, PA. I just signed up for this board earlier today... hell, I just finished reading the book earlier today. I've been out of college now for 3 years (graduated with a degree in Sociology), and I've had the same job since February, 2002.

I bought the book about 2 years ago, and when I picked it up at that point to read it, I realized that the situations weren't necessarily me... at that point. I read 24 pages into the book, and put it in my bookcase, not to be touched again until about 2 weeks ago. I realized that this book did relate to me now, whether or not I wanted to admit it.

There are many things in the book that describe me perfectly. I'm program manager for an after-school organization that works with inner-city youth. It's a really, really rewarding job, but there's not really any room for growth, and honestly I'm just tired of it. It's great, but I'm not sure if I want to work with kids for the rest of my life. A part of me wants to go back to get a Master's to be a guidance counselor, but another part of me feels like there's more out there. I don't want to commit my time or money into something I'm not really sure about. I just really have no idea what I want right now, as far as a career goes.

Another big factor leading to my QLC, is the fact that I'm single right now, no girlfriend... and all of my friends have gotten married, or seem like they're pretty much on the fast track to it. My friends from college live in other cities, and not all of them are at this point as far as their relationships go, but I don't get to communicate with them very often. My parents have been bugging me about my career and the fact that I'm not headed toward marriage. I know deep down it's not a big deal, but there's just so much pressure on me.

I feel like maybe I should get out of the area and look for something somewhere else, but I don't have the cash to do that right now... besides, I feel like I should have an idea of what I want to do before I uproot and move somewhere else.

I haven't admitted this much to anyone around me, as they're all tied up in their own world of relationships, careers, and other things.

I'm looking forward to talking to all of you, and hopefully I can make some friends along the way... in the Bethlehem, PA, area, and other places as well.

Thanks, and I hope all of you are having a great holiday season.

Shawn

pisces2473
12-14-2004, 11:42 PM
Hi Shawn and welcome! I'm one of the moderators (WeirdBrake is the other) and I think you'll find that you'll fit right in around here. I know it's easy for all of us to say not to worry, but a lot of us can vouch for the fact that everything does and will work out. Yes, indeed. Many of us have struggled with and are still struggling with the same problems that you are facing--you are definitely in good company.

So stick around and join the fun! :)

winneythepooh7
12-15-2004, 07:01 AM
Hi Shawn. Welcome. If you have any questions about Social Work/the non-profit world, feel free to PM me. I will be brutally honest with you about the pros and cons, especially about getting a Master's. I am not a guidance counselor, but have my Master's in Social Work. Again, welcome.

GetMeOuttaDC
12-15-2004, 10:28 AM
Hi! If you want any advice on getting your parents off your back, PM me. :) I have the most overbearing set in the universe.

labrat2111
12-15-2004, 12:19 PM
Hi Shawn,

I just wanted to say hi as I grew up in the Allentown/Bethlehem area although I'm only home their for holidays now. I understand the no g/f thing and seeing all the friends get married. Plus having to listen to my mom talk about all my cousins getting married. You certainly have my sympathy.

tina1979
12-15-2004, 01:02 PM
Well, I just like giving my opinon in general :D so if you have a question feel free to ask. Welcome!

wordsmith
12-15-2004, 01:13 PM
Hey, Shawn, welcome! I had what sounds like the exact same type of job as you for a couple of years when I graduated from college! I know the field well! I, too, thought about guidance counseling, because as a program director, I'd pretty much reached as far as I could go. Unfortunately, where I am, you can't be a guidance counselor without classroom teaching experience, and student teaching taught me that I'm not interested in being a teacher. I actually really wish the youth work field paid enough to live on, I might still be in it. Right now, I'm kinda struggling for where I wanna be, too.

Kristyn
12-15-2004, 01:23 PM
Welcome Shawn! I hope this community can help you out. Feel free to voice anything you want. Welcome again. :)

Empressallie
12-15-2004, 01:49 PM
Welcom Shawn! I have found this site to be very helpful with dealing with these types of issues. You are so not alone. I have not even graduated undergra yet and already I am a stress case sometimes! Feel grateful that at least you have a job you enjoy for now. And as for the gf thing, as annoying as it is, you just cant plan those things. You can go out, meet people, etc, which will help, but Fate has to do the rest there. I met my SO (as well as my ex) on random chance occasions when I wasnt looking. At least we were both smart enough to realize what was in front of us! You sound like a really nice guy, so it's only a matter of time.

ShawnInPA
12-16-2004, 02:25 AM
I'd like to thank all of you guys so far. This site is great, and all of the support has really helped. I will be getting in touch with some of you soon.

I hope everyone is having a great holiday season...

Take care,
Shawn

Jill
12-23-2004, 12:34 AM
Hello! I actually just found this website about ten minutes ago and am thrilled to have found it.

I totally feel the same way. I am 24 with a degree with two majors 1)studio art 2)anthropology. Somehow after college, in a quest to find out what the hell I was going to do with this type of degree, I found out that I was good at teaching. I started tutoring kids for the SAT and academic subjects. I really love it, but I feel the same way. There has to be something else out there.

All of my friends are finishing up law school, and I just kind of feel like what the hell am I doing? Am I going to be a teacher forever? I really have no answer, just thought you should know that I feel the same way.

Desiderata
12-23-2004, 12:47 AM
maybe you can combine studio art and anthro? hehe
welcome aboard

winneythepooh7
12-23-2004, 07:16 AM
Yeah I so know the feeling. Am I gonna be a Social Worker forever? But then again there are a lot of good points about what I do, I actually like my agency despite the BS and I basically can wear whatever I want to work which I love. (I HATE suits and dressing up for work).