should i call?

[flyogagrl]

So on New Years I met this really fun guy. His roomate was dancing with my roomate and he and I just started talking and really hit it off. For the rest of the night he and I danced and talked with other friends and went off by ourselves and just talked out on a front step of a bar. It was really awesome!
After the bar closed (around 3) he and his roomate invited me and my roomate to come back to their apt. to hang out because they lived in walking distance of the bar and my roomate wanted to hook up with the other guy. So she and I acquiesced and went over there.
After my roomate and her guy went to bed, the guy I was talking to and I started to hook up. We stayed up talking/hooking up until 6:30 and went to bed there after. My roomate woke me up at 9:30 because she couldn't sleep and wanted to go home via cab.
The guy I was talking to was admant that we weren't going to take a cab and got up and drove us home. When we got home, my roomate realized that she had a flat tire and he helped her change it. I seriously thought that was super sweet and nice. After that, the three of us got dunkin donuts and then he took off.
I gave him my number before he left and he gave me his.
But it's been 5 days and he hasn't called. I'm kinda sad about this.
Should I call him?????

[irish42]

I say call him, he did give you his number and he seemed genuinely interested in you from the sounds of it....

[LyraDora]

call him. i think the whole calling & not calling thing is bs. too many good things can be lost over this petty game.

[GetMeOuttaDC]

what Irish and Dora said. and on a more tailored-to-you note, I think that a new guy (you don't have to marry him next week, but he will get your mind off your ex) will be a very good change for you. :)

NOW CALL!

[heatherf]

YES! And the first week back to work after the holidays is hectic- he's probably just been stressed etc....so don't sweat it!;)

[Empressallie]

suck it up and call him!

It can be so awkward when numbers are exchanged both ways, no one wants to call first and risk rejection. It sounds like he WONT reject you.

Hey, what have you got to lose?

[J-girl]

CALL!!

[GetMeOuttaDC]

CALL!

[kitalyn414]

CALL CALL CALL! :D

[flyogagrl]

Ok, so I'm gona call!
My roomate, who this is her first time being single since 2000, said I should wait to call until Sat afternoon to be more "breezy" ("Friends" reference for those who know what I am talking about!). She might have a point- I don't know.

And don't even get me started on my ex. I spoke with him yesterday via im, and he was going on and on about how great his new years was with the 19 year old and her underage friends and how he played bartended because none of them knew how to make good drinks. I had to make fun of him for a good 10mins for this. He is also now talking about moving to Alabama in August after he gets his Ph.d. in Oceanography.

[J-girl]

Originally posted by flyogagrl
Ok, so I'm gona call!
My roomate, who this is her first time being single since 2000, said I should wait to call until Sat afternoon to be more "breezy" ("Friends" reference for those who know what I am talking about!). She might have a point- I don't know.

And don't even get me started on my ex. I spoke with him yesterday via im, and he was going on and on about how great his new years was with the 19 year old and her underage friends and how he played bartended because none of them knew how to make good drinks. I had to make fun of him for a good 10mins for this. He is also now talking about moving to Alabama in August after he gets his Ph.d. in Oceanography.

GOOD LORD MY EX DOES THE SAME THING TO MAKE ME JEALOUS! 5 DAYS IS BREEZY ENOUGH. YOUR ROOMAMTE HASNT BEEN IN THE GAME FOR 4 YEARS, I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO HER :D

[GetMeOuttaDC]

YOUR ROOMAMTE HASNT BEEN IN THE GAME FOR 4 YEARS, I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD LISTEN TO HER

Seriously. J's right.

CALL! NOW!

[bigboom]

Originally posted by GetMeOuttaDC


Seriously. J's right.

CALL! NOW!


exactly id rather have a girl call me too soon than too long cuz then ill lose interest

[maxwell78]

Originally posted by bigboom

exactly id rather have a girl call me too soon than too long cuz then ill lose interest
Totally. It's been five days already for crying out loud!

[flyogagrl]

Ok, I CALLED! I left him a msg after I got out of class.
Ball is now in his court....

[maxwell78]

Woohoo! Cross your fingers. I'm sure it will work out though. :D

[J-girl]

*fingers crossed*

[flyogagrl]

Ok, so how long do I give him to call back before I chalk it up to just a really fun night????

[kitalyn414]

i say till sunday.


since the weekend is approaching, he may have plans and be busy. sunday is a good day to make those kind of phone calls... weekend's wrapping up, week hasn't begun. definitely an early evening call on sunday. ;)

GOOD LUCK! :D

[flyogagrl]

Ok, it's sunday at 4:30. He hasn't called. I completely don't get guys!!! Why do you say you are going to call, take my number, give me yours, and then not communicate????!!!WTF!
I was drunk on Friday and really contimplated calling him and leaving a f'd up msg. I didn't of course, but not only was i disappointed it was an ego bruise.
stupid boys!

[J-girl]

Oh man I totally know that feeling! I hate waiting for calls. First it takes you soo long to make a decision and then those mofos dont call!

[cindy2004]

I totally understand how you feel because I am in your same situation! I met a guy over new years as well. He was pretty much the initiator of our acquaintance. At times he would refer to doing stuff together in the future. Before we went our seperate ways, we exchanged numbers. Well, a week later I emailed him but he hasn't reponded. But I sort of put myself in a hard position because I did remember him mentioning that he doesn't really check his email. Ofcourse I was playing it safe because I was afraid to call him and was hoping he'll call me. Anyway, long story short. Its been a week since I emailed him. So two weeks total now. I'm not sure if he's interested at all, but I am going to call him this week. What have I got to loose? Any good conversation starters? I'm really bad at this ...

[GetMeOuttaDC]

Originally posted by flyogagrl
Ok, it's sunday at 4:30. He hasn't called. I completely don't get guys!!! Why do you say you are going to call, take my number, give me yours, and then not communicate????!!!WTF!
I was drunk on Friday and really contimplated calling him and leaving a f'd up msg. I didn't of course, but not only was i disappointed it was an ego bruise.
stupid boys!

what an ass. you deserve better!

unless he is having some issue with the fact that he met you while drunk? I'll admit to having blown a few guys off for that reason...

[shimmer728]

Same thing has happened to me a million times over. What a losah. :rolleyes:

P.S. This is post number 2K! :D

[FuriousAngel]

I had to smile when I read the first post in this thread as my immediate thought was NO! Don't CALL! LOL! I am not one to run out and purchase books, but after repeatedly seeing the name appear around cyberland? I just had to see what all the hype was about....

'He's Just Not That Into You'

...The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

By Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo


One of the things the book specifically addresses is the scenario/question you posed. Their theory is don't make that call. That if they are truly interested in you? They WILL call!

Sorry he didn't return the call though! That sucks!

:( (Check out that book! You'll laugh your asses off and walk away feeling much wiser!)

[flyogagrl]

I have the book. I can't take the whole thing serioiusly. Some of it is strictly for entertainment purposes.
As for the drunk thing, we weren't drunk all night. When we met, yea, we were a little drunk but we were up to 6:30am talking. At somepoint between 2 (when we left the bar) and 6:30 I am sure sobriety set in.
And it's one thing to take a number and not call. It's completely another when he is like "I'm going to call you later" or "we are going out again"...LIES!
It's guys like this who give the nice ones a bad rap too!

[Starfish81]

I can't stand that book. I don't need to spend 15 dollars to feel bad about myself.

flyo, I agree with you wholeheartedly. These guys who say they want to see you again, and then don't call are making things difficult for all the good guys out there. I've become distrusting and wary towards men in general solely because of the loser guys that have lied to me in the past, which sucks, because I truly want to be open to finding a nice guy out there.

Someday I'll find my Steve, just like Miranda did.

Hang in there, flyo.