Married?

[Adina]

I am a 22 year old college senior. I am done with classes in 4 weeks. I am married to a 26 year old senior who is also done in 4 weeks. I just wanted a place to disscuss the trials and tibulations of being a married twentysomething.

[Anonymous]

I got married out of school - I was 22 and my husband was 23. We met in school and went thru everything together. We celebrate our 5th year anniversary in a couple of weeks.
After we got married I did a Master's degree and my husband had to do his architectural internship and tests, and we got thru it all.

It has been great being married. I have had my husband's support thru everything and I have helped him too. We are really well-matched to each other and communicate well and often. We are concerned about each other's dreams and ideas, and try to make everything work. Consequently, we are moving soon because where we are now - does NOT work for me.

I think being open and honest with each other is most important. Talk about evrything - especially what you want your life to be like and your future. Also, learn more about each other's pasts and the things that shaped you to be the people you are.

Good luck!! It is all a great adventure.

[RenChick]

Not married, but u are always welcome to share your married-life trials & tribulations with me /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_wink.gif

[Anonymous]

Hi there. This is my first time on this site, and I can relate to everyone. I am also in a quarterlife crisis, and I think being married doesn't help. My husband and I married when he was 24 and I was 22. He really didn't get to go through a QLC because he got a really good high paying job right away. Because of this, I haven't been able to persue my dreams because we are stuck in a city that has no opportunities in the pharmacutical industry (what I would love to do) because his work is here. I am very unhappy in my job, and really can't find another one. I feel bad complaining because my husband treats me so good, but I just feel like he doesn't understand what I am going through. Oh, well. Any ideas?

[shawty]

When you talk to your husband, what exactly do you say?

[nikkinikki]

Hi. I'm a first timer and am sooooo glad to have found this page. anyhoo, i am also a married qlc-er. i married at 22 and am now 26. my husband is 32, so a bit of an age diff. i am happy to have found my husband relatively early on and never really hit the dating scene. he is understanding when it comes to listening to me talk about my crisis but i know he's tired of hearing about it. my friends and i also took different paths in life. i had to take a hiatus from college to get out of my parents house and in with husband but i am back pursuing my degree. i think the marriage thing is luck. my close friends got married 21-23 and 2 out of the 4 of our close group are divorced or will be soon. my spouse and i are classics DINKs while my best friend from high school married her hs sweetheart and has a 2 yr old. my personal take on marriage is that you must be friends with your partner as well as lovers. but yes marriage does change you. and i know how it feels to not be able to pursue certain interests careerwise because the other half is happy and doesn't want to go anywhere. but it's a compromise i am willing to make because i love him that much. i am still in school AND working full time so hey my own plate is filled as it is. thanx for letting me bend some ears.

[Anonymous]

[Goodgrief]

Your best bet it to discuss those trials and tribulations with your spouse. Lack of communcation can be a killer. Also ya might want to consider looking at what is really important rather then what society supposedly deems important.