are you a girl that snoops through her boyfriends email?

[missbabyL]

haha! i am. i swore i would never tell anyone but now im beginning to find out that other girls do it all the time! call it a crazy insecurity thing but i call it girls just loving gossip. what a bunch of shit disturbers we all are.

[missbabyL]

i should correct myself. i USED to. i try to abstain now. somehow it all catches up with me.

[maxwell78]

Originally posted by missbabyL

call it a crazy insecurity thing...
That's exactly what I would call it. It's not cute or funny or delightfully mischevious...it's just wrong. It's a huge violation of trust. And a pretty arrogant thing to do, if you ask me.

[shimmer728]

Yeah, and if you snoop, it's pretty much an unwritten rule tht you'll find something you don't want to find.

[labrat2111]

I think my ex, Jaime who I was with wanted to go through my email. She told me her password for her email account for what reasons I can't fathom. She seemed to expect at some point I would reciprocate and give her my password and I told I'd do that about the same when hell freezes over. It just seems like that kind of thing only leads to trouble. Each person still needs their sphere of privacy.

I never read her emails with one exception. During the last month of our relationship she was getting all weird about her email and asked one of her friends who knows computers to set up Outlook on her computer with a new password. However seeing as we only have one internet connection and it was usually attached to her computer I would just check my yahoo mail on her computer.

One day I did this and I saw that she had opened her outlook email and was doing something else and forgot to close it and the screen powered down and went black after 15 minutes so when I moved the mouse and the screen came back to life there was this email bad-mouthing me to all of her friends and stating she was looking into breaking up with me and moving out! It certainly explained quite a few things at the time although it did piss me off a bit that she distorted the truth to her friends. I just closed the email later and pretended I never read it and later in the week she would just leave outlook running while she was away at work and I was home???? I just think it was retarded that she put her friend through the effort of updating her email and password (which I had never looked at her email to this point) just to leave it open and running so I could end up reading it. The thing is I didn't snoop further but an email on the screen is fair game. If you're dumb enough to leave incriminating materials around you get what you deserve.

[mishl982]

Wow, well that's a horrible way to find out your gf wants to break up! Even worse than breaking up over the phone or voicemail!

I wouldn't check my boyfriend's email (if I had one) - like shimmer said, I'd probably find something that I wouldn't want to see. Plus, imagine if my bf ever read my emails - I gossip about guys to my girls all the time in email!

[inuts]

Wow, I've never even THOUGHT about the possibility of my SO reading my email... that said I never write or say ANYTHING that I wouldn't be able to own up to in the future--I am very careful about what I say or write. I stick to what I say--I do not open my mouth or write stuff for the sake of opening my mouth or just to write "stuff."

I don't think I'd want my SO to read my email, and I would think it would be VERY weird if she wanted to. It'd make me think twice about the kind of person she is.

[Tayl405]

I've never done it--I wouldn't want to know what I'd find. Emails can be taken out of context too, I know mine can. Maybe if I suspected something I'd think differently though. Or, I have to admit, if it was already up I might read it.

What about phones? Would you go through his/her phone? I feel it's along the same lines as email.

[MetFanL]

I don't even like people using my computer and seeing my favorites. This dude was at my house and we were trying to look up information for a bet we made. I went to the ladies and when I came back he was on this site that I order certain "supplies from." I should never have left him alone with my computer...

[inuts]

Phone messages are 100% private, too. If I suspected something fishy with my SO, I would simply ask and not let her squirm out of the question.

[WeirdBrake]

Originally posted by maxwell78

That's exactly what I would call it. It's not cute or funny or delightfully mischevious...it's just wrong. It's a huge violation of trust. And a pretty arrogant thing to do, if you ask me.

I agree with maxwell. Also, there's an old saying, "Never ask a question you don't want to know the answer to."

[kitalyn414]

i wouldn't go through my boyfriend's email. it is like reading someone's journal... a total violation of privacy. i guess it comes down to "do unto others..." i wouldn't want someone going through my stuff, so i wouldn't go through theirs.

[Tayl405]

That leads to...how would you react if you found out someone did snoop?

[Skyblade]

Yeah, I don't think I could go through my bf's e-mail. If I had one that is.

One thing this thread reminded me of though is that my ex-bf has a blog, and after we broke up I was obsessed with checking it all the time, just to know what he was up to. It really sucked cuz I would feel bad after checking it for like 2 whole days. It took me awhile to finally kick the habit of checking it, and realizing it that it wasn't healthy for me, even though it is a somewhat "harmless" activity on its own, it was really not helping me heal.

[midtwenty]

Why would you snoopervise someone you supposedly love? That is so wrong. If you have trust issues like that you don't need to be dating. You need to be seeing a therapist.

[Tayl405]

Snoopervise? lol

[maxwell78]

Originally posted by midtwenty

If you have trust issues like that you don't need to be dating. You need to be seeing a therapist.
Exactly. *golf clap* :D

[seanstevens]

on the count of three, everyone go change their passwords (and for god's sake don't tell anyone!)


Use random passwords and get an encrypted safe:

http://www.download.com/KeePass-Password-Safe/3000-2092_4-10342345.html?tag=lst-0-1

[asm198]

After I broke up with my boyfriend, I would check his email. I never checked it while we were together. However, I would never, ever do that now. After being apart for nearly two years, we got back together and now live together. We sort of bought a house together and I am so respectful of his privacy that I don't know exactly how much he makes, exactly how much the morgage is, or any passwords to any accounts. I refuse to open household bills if they are addressed to him. I figure if he wants me to know, he will tell me. Otherwise, it's none of my business. And the same goes for him. He knows more about my finances because I am more open, but I always offer up the information, he never asks.

I think it's because I trust him completely and know that if there is something I need to know, he'd tell me. We give each other the space that we both need. It wouldn't be an issue for either of us if the other asked, but we know we don't need because the other person would say something.

[cornflakegirl]

After I broke up with my boyfriend, I would check his email. I never checked it while we were together. However, I would never, ever do that now. After being apart for nearly two years, we got back together and now live together. We sort of bought a house together and I am so respectful of his privacy that I don't know exactly how much he makes, exactly how much the morgage is, or any passwords to any accounts. I refuse to open household bills if they are addressed to him. I figure if he wants me to know, he will tell me. Otherwise, it's none of my business. And the same goes for him. He knows more about my finances because I am more open, but I always offer up the information, he never asks.



how do you sorta buy a house together? did he buy it & moved in & is that why you don't know how much the mortgage is? do you help pay any bills?
just curious about the arrangement you two have.

[asm198]

how do you sorta buy a house together? did he buy it & moved in & is that why you don't know how much the mortgage is? do you help pay any bills?
just curious about the arrangement you two have.

We had been dating, but not exclusively when he mentioned he wanted to buy a house and asked me to look with him. We found a house that we mutually liked and he bought it. The day he moved in, he asked me to move in. I know roughly what the morgage is, but not exactly.

I don't currently help with any of the bills because I'm unemployed and moved to be with him (we did the long distance thing for about 9 months), but I'll only be responsible for the cable bill and half the cell bill once I get a job.

Basically, because I gave up my job to move and be with him, we agreed that he would support us until I found I job I would enjoy. When that happens, I would pay the bills above and a substantial part of my paycheck will go towards remodeling.

[Tayl405]

asm--that's what I did, pretty much exactly. It started to bother me though, because I felt/feel like nothing's mine. I don't like relying on him. We've started looking for a new apt, and I have a job, so I'll be contributing and I can't wait!

[Radgirl]

Sure have!

[pisces2473]

I only went into his email when he was in the hospital and wanted me to clear out his box from spam. He gave me the password, which I still have, but I never went on there again. I trust him and I'm not just saying that...I really do. I'm not a fool. If I suspected something, I'd come out and ask him. Then I MIGHT go looking in the email...but I don't think I would.

[Deadend]

I did it, and I found things I didn't want to. Not as bad as Labrat mind you.

I do not repent either, she's the one that told me the password and didn't change it when we split. Bitch got all sanctimonious when I admitted to it too.

Keep your goddamn passwords to yourself from the get go, k people?

[Tayl405]

I think if my boyfriend were to go through my emails, he might misinterpret things. I have nothing to hide, but in some of my personal emails I may be referring to a conversation we had last (maybe, say, about a guy a girlfriend of mine is dating but I only say "he" which my bf would think means him). I'd be afraid that if I were to read his, I'd misinterpret too.