EHarmony

[Sagiquarius]

Has anyone seen these EHarmony.com commercials? All these people standing around and talking about how great their lives have become since they met their "soul mates"?

All I can think is what load of malarky it all is. I went to EHarmony.com and I spent about 25 minutes on that damn obnoxious personality test and I got not ONE match. Not ONE! Working with all those criteria, you mean to tell me that they couldn't find one girl anywhere in the country to match me? I could see if I had a third arm and I had some kind of unholy infatuation with like Smurfette or something. But I don't I'm average.

The thing that pissess me off is that on the commercial there's no disclaimer that says they may not be able to match your personality. So come let's discuss. Your experiences with the website if any.

[shimmer728]

I have no experience with that site personally, but I've heard a lot of similar complaints. I think it may be tailored to people who are looking for very specific things?

[Sagiquarius]

But a profile that takes 25 mins to complete? How much more specific can you be

[wordsmith]

I see the logic behind using a more detailed profile...but almost everyone I know who has tried it has gotten the response that they were one of that "minority" who couldn't be matched.

I really do think that it's more successful with people who have VERY specific criteria regarding what they are looking for. Even the commercials allude to it being like "putting in an order" for a mate. I can't really imagine that. For me, one of the best things about dating is when you realize that somebody surprises you, because they've got these traits that maybe you've never been that drawn to or attracted to before, but then in that person, you're like, "Oooh!" I think you can ace yourself out of a good thing by having ultra-rigid criteria.

[Sagiquarius]

I didn't pay because once I went through the profile (which was free) it told me that there were no matches. I just said screw it and I left

[and1grad]

I dont think it gives u matches right away. It'll probly email em to u in a lil while. I think so far I've had like 7 or something. I didnt pay for it either.

[Skyblade]

How about filling out the 25 minute survey, only to find that you are incompatible w/ their system? And you'd think I'd be in the right demographic (being a christian girl, looking for kind of a serious thing, but whatever).

[GetMeOuttaDC]

I haven't used the site, but the commercials seem more targeted to older (30 and 40 somethings) people who seem to be using the service as a last-ditch attempt not to be single?

[WeirdBrake]

Count me in the EHarmony reject pile. :D

[shimmer728]

Oh, we all know you belong in the reject pile. :D

[rafflesj]

I've never used it but my friends and I boycot it because they don't provide their services to gays and lesbians.

[One on One]

Why would someone want to date a carbon copy of themselves anyways?

[diesel]

I'm actually afraid to post to this thread...

I met my husband on eHarmony. I didn't have issues with the site at all. HOWEVER - two of my friends have had not such good experiences. So I don't think it's for everyone. Plus, I do think it is more for a slightly older group. My husband is 35 and I'm rapidly approaching 29. I think the site is not about dating - it's about finding a husband/wife. And for the record my husband and I are NOT carbon copies of each other. We have a lot of different interests, but we agree on big values type stuff.

And it really only took you 25 minutes to do the profile thing? It's almost 400 questions long and it's taken everyone else I know at least an hour.

So though the site worked really well for me I don't think it's for everyone and I really don't think it's designed well for younger 20 somethings based on some friend's experiences.

Just my .02

[WeirdBrake]

Originally posted by rafflesj
I've never used it but my friends and I boycot it because they don't provide their services to gays and lesbians.

Gee, maybe they also shouldn't provide services to blacks and Hispanics and Jews, either. It can be the first-ever singles service sponsored by the KKK and the Aryan Brotherhood.

I'm actually afraid to post to this thread...

It's ok. We still love ya. ;)

[MetFanL]

It can be the first-ever singles service sponsored by the KKK and the Aryan Brotherhood.

Are you kidding??? I'm sure someone else has already cornered that market. I would do a search myself, but I'm at work.

[rafflesj]

Originally posted by diesel
I met my husband on eHarmony. I didn't have issues with the site at all. HOWEVER - two of my friends have had not such good experiences. So I don't think it's for everyone. Plus, I do think it is more for a slightly older group. My husband is 35 and I'm rapidly approaching 29. I think the site is not about dating - it's about finding a husband/wife. And for the record my husband and I are NOT carbon copies of each other. We have a lot of different interests, but we agree on big values type stuff.

Hey, that's great! For me, its not so much a matter of how people meet but that they are experiencing the joys of love and companionship (one of my friends says that I'm in love with others being in love). Congrats!!!

[wordsmith]

You shouldn't feel bad, diesel...that's awesome that it worked out well for you. And I think that it's a good point that it's designed more along the lines of matching people with spouses than it is just a dating service. It's def. more a "meet your life partner" type thing than a "have fun and try this out and see who you meet" sorta thing. There are lots of online dating services where the intent is more casual...this just is a different kind.

[WeirdBrake]

But why would KKK members ever have trouble dating? There's always a cousin around somewhere. :p

[wordsmith]

Originally posted by rafflesj
For me, its not so much a matter of how people meet but that they are experiencing the joys of love and companionship

Yup. One of my favorite quotes is that HOW you meet isn't what's important, it's what keeps two people together once they have met that's the real issue.

[diesel]

Aww, thanks guys.

I didn't want to offend anyone, but I did want to let people know that it can be a good site.

[hoodie]

No gay/lesbian matches? For the sake of my two close gay friends, I'm outta there- they deserve to find love as much as I do, if not more. Boycott on.

[Starfish81]

when Shelly initiated communication with me, I felt guilty about lying.
Lying about what?

[apollo1129]

:cool: Maybe your personality is a lot more unique and thus, harder to find matches for. By the way, did you ever go out with the one girl you were matched to? How did it go? I had a friend who was completely opposed to trying online dating but she eventually tried eharmony.com and lo and behold, she found her current steady boyfriend of about 8 mos. And according to her, they're pretty well-matched and she's happy with him. I wouldn't expect too much from eharmony.com--the profiles are probably matched up by a computer. Have you tried other dating websites?