The Ladder Theory

[One on One]

There's this theory called the Ladder Theory that basically says you're either on the friends or the romantic ladder. You can't be a friend then jump to the romantic ladder and vice versa. I think it's pretty accurate especially for guys. Guys who are friends with girls and then want a romantic relationship with them, it usually doesn't work out. Agree?

[WeirdBrake]

Yep, I've heard of the Ladder Theory (many guys on here have referenced it), and I agree. If a guy is romantically pursuing a girl and finds himself in the Friend Zone, he should interpret that as a straight-up rejection rather than holding onto this false hope that he'll someday be in the other category.

[GetMeOuttaDC]

WB, you give some guys too much credit... I am not sure every guy who is on the Friend ladder recognizes he is there.

Plus, from a chick's perspective - wouldn't you want to date your best friend? Doesn't it tell you something that your guy friends are there before, during, and after relationships, and still there for you?

[artbabe]

i once had a guy friend make me read all thirteen pages of the ladder theory (it was on a website once). i got the point after the first sentence but he just thought the whole thing was hilarious. anyways, after that we dated and am i still with him...no.

[shimmer728]

I think it's totally possible for a girl to end up having romantic feelings for one of her platonic friends. HOWEVER--any time I've ever given a guy the "let's just be friends" line, it's my way of saying, "Yeah, I'm just not feeling it."

[sebastian]

i grew up on the friend ladder and will always *live* on the friend ladder until the very day i croak. but then what about the phrase "friends first" (which i've always been a believer of)... or do i misconstrue the ladder theory...

[mishl982]

i grew up on the friend ladder and will always *live* on the friend ladder until the very day i croak. but then what about the phrase "friends first" (which i've always been a believer of)... or do i misconstrue the ladder theory...

Yea I'm one of those people who like to meet guys through friends. So if I'm friends with someone and develop feelings for them over time, does that mean I'm still stuck on the friend ladder?

[Skyblade]

This is hilarious...my roommate was telling me all about the ladder theory when I was drunk on Saturday. But she said something about girls have 2 ladders and guys have one.

[natbumpo]

Disagree, I have "jumped ladders" of you will. Friends to Lover.

[kitalyn414]

i'm with nat... i've had a guy jump the ladder and turn into a 4 year relationship.

[mishl982]

Aww someone tell the guy I like to jump the ladder! Haha

[and1grad]

This is hilarious...my roommate was telling me all about the ladder theory when I was drunk on Saturday. But she said something about girls have 2 ladders and guys have one.

LOL!..... :p