reasons to stay a kid vs. to become an adult

[skywalker]

Ok, I'm 26 and have lived and supported myself for the last four years which I guess is sort of adult like, but believe me, I am the biggest kid - or teenager at heart. I love pop music, MTV, comic books, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, A & F and surfer clothes and just flat out being goofy and having fun. Not that I want to hang out with youngsters, but it'd be nice if some people who were near my own age with some life experience also still had this sense of vitality. I have friends that just seem they were born to be adults - they've grown into it so well, listen to adult oriented radio, hate rap, always dress like old people and the like. Even when I was a kid, I could never see myself like that - it just seems so stuffy and boring. So, here's my point though - b/c being in my 20's has been tough and I'm willing to make changes or what have you to find more happiness. So if that means growing up or acting more adult like or whatever, well I'm willing to give it a try. So, I've been open to this, BUT it seems no one can give me one good reason to "grow up." I mean, what are the benefits??? I have yet to see them. It just seems much more exciting, creative, and colorful to be young. All I can think or see is why would anyone WANT to be an adult??? It looks to me like it pretty much sucks. I believe I can make ends meet and keep my soul intact, meet a wife and have kids and never really "grow up" or as I alluded to before - sell my soul. But if anyone has an argument to the contrary, I'd love to hear it. If you agree with me, I'd love to hear it too!

[RenChick]

Wow - I feel the exact same way! I'm 23 (soon to be 24) and never went away to school. I finally moved out "on my own" when I moved from NJ to CT for a job and my (ex) boyfriend. In the last year (since I moved away from mommy & daddy), I have grown up in the sense that I have learned to pay my bills on time and not rely on anyone else to do what needs to be done. But, on the other hand, I feel very young at heart. I don't act my age when I'm hanging out with friends or when I'm goofing around at work, but when times call for maturity, I can be mature.

[skywalker]

Yeah! I can play the adult game, no problem - be mature, but it's like this act. I usually walk away saying, "God I hope I never end up like that!" Thanks for your reply!
PS How could you leave NJ? I love NJ!! Well, the south Jersey shore that is - Bruce Springsteen and Bon Jovi - I bet you miss NJ!! j/k

[RenChick]

Well... like I said, I left for my job and my boyfriend. But my whole life is still in NJ (friends, family, snoopy collection...). I still have my job, luckily, but I obviously don't have the bf anymore(:(). I go to Jersey just about every other weekend because I miss it so much. But I can't quit my job and go run home to mommy, if u know what I mean...

BTW ~ I'm not a huge Springsteen fan, but I WAS at the Bon Jovi concert on Saturday night. /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_wink.gif

Feel free to IM me on IM or find me on ICQ, if u can/want. /phpBB/images/smiles/icon_smile.gif

[Heatherene]

I feel like I'm the exact opposite. There are times I sit in my chair at work and think "How did I sudden;y get so old?" And the scary thing is that I'm only 23. I wish that I could just have fun. I hate this whole growing up thing. I loved being in college, where I could stay up all night with friends, go out to clubs, or simply hang out on a Thursday afternoon. It just seems like there are so many more things to worry about now. I want desperately to have fun again. Unfortunately, fun and adulthood don't seem to fit so well together.

[jenc0629]

I hear you Heather. I feel the same way, although I just turned 26. Most of my friends are married now or engaged etc. and aren't into the club scene or all that anymore. I go out with them once in awhile but I don't want to get old either and I feel I am! I want to go out and have fun and just be crazy like I used to.

[Anonymous]

Message from the grave here ... I'm 32 and still don't consider myself grown up - even though my lifestyle has changed as I've grown older, the kid in me is still there - it just enjoys doing different things.

'Growing up' isn't a conscious decision, it's a continuous process as you move through life, you learn more about people and the world around you and that changes your behaviour. I hope I can never call myself grown up - that would mean that I had chosen to stop growing, and what fun would that be ?

If you want to be more comfortable with it, stop looking back at all the fun you used to have and start looking forward to all the fun you could have ... try new things, life's for living, not for looking back with longing.

When you look back, the good times stand out - you forget all the crap that went with them.

[Anonymous]

Message from the grave here ... I'm 32 and still don't consider myself grown up - even though my lifestyle has changed as I've grown older, the kid in me is still there - it just enjoys doing different things.

'Growing up' isn't a conscious decision, it's a continuous process as you move through life, you learn more about people and the world around you and that changes your behaviour. I hope I can never call myself grown up - that would mean that I had chosen to stop growing, and what fun would that be ?

If you want to be more comfortable with it, stop looking back at all the fun you used to have and start looking forward to all the fun you could have ... try new things, life's for living, not for looking back with longing.

When you look back, the good times stand out - you forget all the crap that went with them.

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