QLC Down Under

[Anonymous]

Hi. I'm a 23 year old Aussie girl who has been feeling lost about life in general. I saw this website mentioned in an article in our Melbourne paper today and all I could think of was that it "describes me perfectly"... I've been half heartedly joking to my friends that I'm having a mid-life crisis and in a way it's nice to know that even though I'm on the other side of the world, there are other people who feel the way I do.

I graduated from uni with a Bachelor of Business, have worked in well-paying accountacy positions for 2 years but now feel it's not for me. I've suffered, and recovered from, chronic fatigue syndrome, am going through a difficult relationship breakup and am constantly feeling like there should be more to life. Maybe I just burned myself out early on, I don't know, but I just want this general feeling of misery and confusion to go away.

Any recommendations?

[Anonymous]

sorry, no recommendations.. just wanted to let you know ive been going through similar shit since i was about 22.... im 28 now.. dont mean to scare you but its reality for me.

im also in melbourne, finished graphic design at melb. uni... have been working at a comfortable job for the past 3 years.. feel pissed off because it pays on but not amazing compared to what i think i could be getting but im too chicken shit to leave in case i dont find anything better... blah blah blah.. have been in a fucked personal situation for the past 7 r 8 years.. dont know whether imcoming or going and who the right person to be with is... should i be practical, i should follow the heart.. should ilive for the moment or should i get to it and start popping out babies because time doesnt stop for anyone (unless you drop dead of course)....

so there you go...

all the best to you....

[Salsa lover]

I'm 28 and look back at the last 8 years and think whoa. Was what I did the right decision? I have achieved many things but have missed so many years of my youth

I think that as humans we need focus not options. The internet has given us so many options and directions that one never knows if it was right. No focus means lack of centre - lack of centre creates confusion. Confusion incites depression.

I work in the finaince industry. there's so many investment options - stocks, bonds, property, funds - the list is endless. And you always wonder if you're making the right decision. We're told not to "time the market" rather have a plan, get in there and keep trading. You win some and loose some.
shit always happens but you always have to keep going. The markets up but your portfolio is 30% down. You always wonder - what the hell am I doing wrong?

Nothing is wrong its just "the random walk of the markets".

So I now view life in the same manner- random walk. try to time your life and you'll invariably loose as there's no logic.
I think a better option is to have a focus, not *Tony Robbins Goals and check lists* just an understanding what makes you happy and focus on that.

I still don't know what makes me trully happy but I'm looking - and thats giving me focus. I don't believe in the marrige thing, forget kids but I'm always reminding myself of the things I know I enjoy. The focus gives me centre.

If you need understanding listen to your soul. I'm not talking religion, or meditation just you ask yourself "what do I enjoy most" - you'll probably already know it, you're just too scared to listen to it.

If you follow your soul the crisis will leave - I promise.

[Anonymous]

hi..I'm an Aussie chick living in melbourne, I just finished reading the book quarterlife crisis and though it was written for an American market it totally hit the spot. I'm 21 years old, I finished high school in 97, went staight into uni dropped out after 2 years cause I realised it wasnt what i wanted to do, spent the year 2000 trying to get over breaking up with my boyfriend of 3 years, and then working as a temp public servant for 3 months to save up and travel for a month. Then met someone I thought was The One, got pregnant and moved to melbourne. That turned out disastrous, he turned out to most definately not be the one and I'm now a single mum living on the pension about to move out by myself with my baby.
Call me naive, call me a whinger, but I've just reached a point where I'm fed up with not only having to deal with this shit but also the fact that my life so far has turned out significantly different to how I imagined it would. I am in fact the epitome of everything I always thought I'd never be.
Thankfully I do have hope and I also have my beautiful baby to remind me that I have no choice but to find a way, but I definately think I'm in the midst of a crisis and just wanted to share. Also glad theres some aussies around.