It isn't the period talk that drives us away...

[inuts]

What I've written below will upset some of you. But I think it needs to be said...

It isn't the period talk that makes men go away. It's the sexism. I cannot begin to describe the number of times I've heard "You're a man, you don't know how it feels," or, "You're a man, you don't know what real pain is. Try giving birth to a child."

Statements like the ones above insinuate that we cannot feel real pain, that our pains are insignificant when compared with yours, and that we should just contain our feelings because, as our pain isn't real, it's not important.

And comments like "men don't understand 'X'" have the same effect. They too imply that, because we are men, we cannot possibly understand. And this statement automatically dismisses any man who may in fact understand. To any man who may actually understand, well, it doesn't matter. We are men. What we think and know doesn't count.

I don't know why or how this sexism is permitted to continue today. But so long as it does, men will continue to go away.

[tina1979]

I can understand how you feel. Just realise that guys do it to us too.

edit:wait I think I may have misunderstood this one. Ignore me.

[paiger81]

If the period threads offend you, then don't read them.

That doesn't mean you should completely write off the HEALTH FORUM entirely. I just don't want men to think this is a women's only forum.

Maybe I've been lucky cause most of the men I know don't really care if I talk about my period. But I don't normally make it an everyday convo, either......

[biodork]

I don't recall anyone saying or reading any of the "men don't feel pain like we do" stuff on this board, with maybe the exception of the feminist rant thread. So why keep away on this board? Yeah maybe in real life its harder, but definitely not here.

And the comment about men don't understand X, well i believe it sort of has a truth, and the same goes for women not being able to understand x things that men go through. You can sympathize but something (such as giving child birth or having cramps) you wont TRULY understand unless you somehow grow a vagina and uterus and ovaries.

But this IS a health forum, and no matter how much us girls might talk about birth control or having our periods, it doesn't JUST have to stick to that. It's for ANYTHING health related, so why not start another thread about a health issue you are having? Instead of starting this.

[midtwenty]

What I've written below will upset some of you. But I think it needs to be said...

It isn't the period talk that makes men go away. It's the sexism. I cannot begin to describe the number of times I've heard "You're a man, you don't know how it feels," or, "You're a man, you don't know what real pain is. Try giving birth to a child."

It isn't sexism. Sorry, but you DON'T understand what it's like to have a period or give birth to a child. It's not a commentary on your value as a person or your ability to compute the sensation of pain. It's simply a statement that you're talking out your ass because you never have, and never will, experience those things.

You don't see us girls mulling over the sensation of ejaculation, do you? No, because we have no idea what that would even BEGIN to feel like. Frankly, it's insulting to US that men try to diminish or devalue what we're feeling by saying things like, "Oh it can't be THAT bad" or "Just deal with it; it's only pain." We hear things like that just as often as you hear the "You're just a man" comments, pal.

[shimmer728]

I totally get that men experience pain, too. Just don't try to minimize mine (although around my period, mine's more emotional than physical.)*

*My BF doesn't do this. I'm speaking in general here. :)

[paiger81]

You know my dad used to tell me & my mom that our cramps "They can't hurt that bad". He got a few years ago hemorrhoids & used to complain how bad they hurt. My reply was always "They can't hurt that bad". We both now respect the other's pain :D

[biodork]

I totally get that men experience pain, too. Just don't try to minimize mine (although around my period, mine's more emotional than physical.)*

*My BF doesn't do this. I'm speaking in general here. :)

Good cover up. :huge:

[MonaLisa]

It isn't sexism. Sorry, but you DON'T understand what it's like to have a period or give birth to a child. It's not a commentary on your value as a person or your ability to compute the sensation of pain. It's simply a statement that you're talking out your ass because you never have, and never will, experience those things.

You don't see us girls mulling over the sensation of ejaculation, do you? No, because we have no idea what that would even BEGIN to feel like. Frankly, it's insulting to US that men try to diminish or devalue what we're feeling by saying things like, "Oh it can't be THAT bad" or "Just deal with it; it's only pain." We hear things like that just as often as you hear the "You're just a man" comments, pal.

True. To paraphrase another thread, men and women aren't the same. Ability to empathize is going to have it's limits, both ways.

[inuts]

I had a number of thoughts about each reply, but this is the one I was driving at.

I totally get that men experience pain, too. Just don't try to minimize mine (although around my period, mine's more emotional than physical.)*

*My BF doesn't do this. I'm speaking in general here. :)

To put in my words... "I totally get that women experience pain, too. Just don't try to minimize mine..."

Nobody wants to feel minimized. That was my point. And pointing out statements that make someone feel minimized was my goal.

[and1grad]

I think when someone says they understand what you're going through, they just mean that they understand pain. Extreme pain isnt exclusive.

Oh...and it IS the period talk that drives ME away. :razz:

p.s. Women do ejaculate.

[Jedi of Zen]

p.s. Women do ejaculate.


LOL...I think we can all rest easy now that that's been clarified.

[and1grad]

LOL!! sigh....if only that were true. :neutral:

[Starfish81]

To put in my words... "I totally get that women experience pain, too. Just don't try to minimize mine..."

Nobody wants to feel minimized. That was my point. And pointing out statements that make someone feel minimized was my goal.

I won't minimize your pain, if you don't minimize mine, physical or emotional.

p.s. Women do ejaculate.

Not all of them do. Just some special ones. :)

[lilyflower]

And the comment about men don't understand X, well i believe it sort of has a truth, and the same goes for women not being able to understand x things that men go through. You can sympathize but something (such as giving child birth or having cramps) you wont TRULY understand unless you somehow grow a vagina and uterus and ovaries.

Exactly! Guys may never fully understand what mind-crushing cramps or labor feel like but at the same time, I'm never going to fully understand what it's like to be kicked in the nuts. :lol:

[heatherf]

I think when someone says they understand what you're going through, they just mean that they understand pain. Extreme pain isnt exclusive.

Oh...and it IS the period talk that drives ME away. :razz:

p.s. Women do ejaculate.

I remember reading some cosmo article about this shit.....it's like the full vaginal orgasm, not just the kind stimulated by the clit so to speak.

YET- I have only had one (1) of the big kind. The rest are the other kind. And I've read that it has to do with some major G-Spot rubs etc.

Anybody have any words of advice on this?

[Starfish81]

I remember reading some cosmo article about this shit.....it's like the full vaginal orgasm, not just the kind stimulated by the clit so to speak.

YET- I have only had one (1) of the big kind. The rest are the other kind. And I've read that it has to do with some major G-Spot rubs etc.

Anybody have any words of advice on this?

You've only had one of the big kind and you're pregnant? I'm just saying...

Do a Google/Yahoo/whatever search, and check out some articles online. They can be helpful and informative. Most importanly, just keep trying.

This is coming from a virgin who acts like she knows what she is talking about.

[and1grad]

This is coming from a virgin who acts like she knows what she is talking about.
HA! Now thats funny.

[paiger81]

Starfish-
That is funny!!! Lord knows my opinion on sex changed once I started having it. :cool:

Heather-
There is some stuff called Southern Comfort, that I got at a sex toy party. It helps in getting to the BIG ONES(at least it does for me)

[cornflakegirl]

paige - where can i find southern comfort? i did a google search for it & female orgasm & all i got was a bunch of drinks. i also came across someone's personal masturbation story, in which she tells of her pleasure in sticking so co bottles up her. :eek:

[pisces2473]

Oh.

My.

God.

I almost choked on my own spit after reading Liz's last find. Whoa.

[cornflakegirl]

i would have quoted it here. it was pretty short, but oh so dirty.

[Starfish81]

HA! Now thats funny.

I try. :)

(here are some more characters.)

[Starfish81]

paige - where can i find southern comfort? i did a google search for it & female orgasm & all i got was a bunch of drinks. i also came across someone's personal masturbation story, in which she tells of her pleasure in sticking so co bottles up her. :eek:

I found a pervy story involving characters from Angel. Not exactly what I was looking for.

[heatherf]

Thing is- the big ones take longer to achieve. The other ones are great- and it only takes a couple minutes to get there.....

Starfish- whoa. It's cool that you are a virgin and all, but getting off during masturbation and getting off during actual intercourse are two TOTALLY different things. Insulting me because I'm pregnant and I've only gotten one of the big ones? Ouch. That's rude. :torn:

[pisces2473]

Yeah, I didn't really get what Starfish meant...there's zero connection between someone being pregnant and having the big one.

[biodork]

Maybe the fact that you are supposed to get somewhat of an increase in sex drive when you are pregnant and therefore she assumed you'd be doing it more? I don't know...heh

[pisces2473]

Oh, and I would like to take this opportunity to point out that I am not pregnant this month. My period started this morning.

Carry on. :p

[heatherf]

Oh, and I would like to take this opportunity to point out that I am not pregnant this month. My period started this morning.

Carry on. :p

Good, I was so worried! ;)

That increased sex drive thing- the thing they don't tell you is that before you get there, you have to go through the first trimester! The first trimester is the one in which you feel that everyday you were ran over by a Mack Truck. The instant any part of your body hits a bed- you are out. There's no sex going on.....such the myth!

Now that I'm getting into the 2nd trimester....it's starting to come back around...

But I just don't get it anyways. Tons of women have a very difficult time having an orgasm in the first place. And probably many more have no idea that there are a couple kinds of orgasms.

[paiger81]

Yeah, I didn't really get what Starfish meant...there's zero connection between someone being pregnant and having the big one.

What I thought Starfish was saying was that she seemed to be thinking that EVERY time you have sex, you get a BIG ONE.

As for the Southern Comfort, I got it at a F.U.N. party, it's in a white jar & is a little creme that you apply that makes you MUCH more sensitive.

With Kirk I had to explain that we have different types, too, poor guy thought he might be doing something wrong :bigger:

[biodork]

Must be similar to the stuff that I got for free for hosting a party, called Nympho Niagra. I think its the cooling one? It does make you extra sensitive, but I tried it and it seemed like it just rubbed off during sex!

[heatherf]

Hmmmmm.......Maybe people on here just don't even understand about the two types of orgasms I've heard of?

1) By way of the Clitoris. This mainly involves thinking about achieving the O, and physical stimulation which of course causes blood to rush to the vaginal area, and then upon essentially more stimulation of the clitoris- orgasm is achieved.


2) By way of G-spot. G-spot is that little dime sized spot hidden up the whoo-hoo somewhere. Supposedly one gets there by aiming for the belly-button, but internally. Once found, tons of stimulation is needed. And then some big O happens. But I've had this kind after just a long bout in the bed- this is the one where supposedly ejaculation occurs.

Anyone else hear of these kind before? Maybe I'm the freak here?

[inuts]

Okay, I've been reading this, and now I need to know--call me dumb, but what is this big one? Are we talking the one that takes a while...

[paiger81]

Hehe, heather just explained it.

Heather, I knew of those to. I'm a nerd who reads a lot.

[pisces2473]

I knew those too...apparently there is a vaginal one (besides the G-spot one) and an anal orgasm too. I read about this somewhere--so really women can have 4 types.

[paiger81]

Must be similar to the stuff that I got for free for hosting a party, called Nympho Niagra. I think its the cooling one? It does make you extra sensitive, but I tried it and it seemed like it just rubbed off during sex!

Mine's kind of like ICY HOT, it normally feels warm, but if you blow on it, it feels cold.

[inuts]

Hmmmmm.......Maybe people on here just don't even understand about the two types of orgasms I've heard of?

1) By way of the Clitoris. This mainly involves thinking about achieving the O, and physical stimulation which of course causes blood to rush to the vaginal area, and then upon essentially more stimulation of the clitoris- orgasm is achieved.


2) By way of G-spot. G-spot is that little dime sized spot hidden up the whoo-hoo somewhere. Supposedly one gets there by aiming for the belly-button, but internally. Once found, tons of stimulation is needed. And then some big O happens. But I've had this kind after just a long bout in the bed- this is the one where supposedly ejaculation occurs.

Anyone else hear of these kind before? Maybe I'm the freak here?

Okay, yes. I do know this. With #1 multiple Os can happen, but with #2 it takes a long time and you're doing well if you can get one to happen. Right? Why does #2 have to be so much work???

[biodork]

I have a sex book at home that explains the different types of orgasms! I'll check when I get home :evil:

[heatherf]

I'm not into the anal, so I'll take you word for that one Jen!

I don't know why the #2 kind takes so much work.....and that's the thing. I find sex so fulfililng with my husband because of the #1 kind. Achieving orgasm at the same time is just soooooooooo.......

As for the icy hot stuff- you can do the same thing by eating an altoid and then giving oral to your partner. Feel free to try it on your man, he'll go crazy for it. :green:

[MetFanL]

As for the icy hot stuff- you can do the same thing by eating an altoid and then giving oral to your partner. Feel free to try it on your man, he'll go crazy for it.

Yeah, alternating an ice cube and like hot tea or something works, as well.

[paiger81]

Interesting. I've used toothpaste on him before & I think it had the same effect. It just never occured to me that he could probably use the toothpaste on me too.

I can't do ice cubes, too cold.

[heatherf]

Toothpaste sounds messy!

[pisces2473]

I'm not into the anal, so I'll take you word for that one Jen!
I just said I read it somewhere....I'm definitely NOT into that...

[paiger81]

Toothpaste sounds messy!

I only put a little dab on my tongue, it worked quite nicely :green:

I have heard a HORROR story about Coca Cola being used on a guy(a friend of mine). The theory was that if pop rocks work, then a can of coke would too. He said it felt like he was burning!!

[wordsmith]

Those enhancement creams pretty much all work because they contain menthol/peppermint extract (same effect as the altoids/toothpaste/coughdrops trick).

As far as the diff. types of Os, some people are more predisposed to one kind over another...some women don't get much by way of vaginal orgasms, and there are women who prefer it to clitoral orgasms.

[MetFanL]

Isn't it all about "training," though? I read somewhere that if you tend to get clitoral orgasms easily, you can sort of train your body to have a vaginal orgasm at the same time by stimulating both when you masturbate. I'm sure it was in Cosmo... It works.

[pisces2473]

Yeah, you can always keep practicing and improving on things.

[wordsmith]

Isn't it all about "training," though? I read somewhere that if you tend to get clitoral orgasms easily, you can sort of train your body to have a vaginal orgasm at the same time by stimulating both when you masturbate. I'm sure it was in Cosmo... It works.

I think it's also a matter of taste, though. What feels best to one women might not to another. There's some stimulation that's great, and some that's just "eh."

[coll214]

Yeah, you can always keep practicing and improving on things.
Practice does make perfect you know ;)

[heatherf]

I think it's also a matter of taste, though. What feels best to one women might not to another. There's some stimulation that's great, and some that's just "eh."


So true! :cool:

I love how there's like all of 5 of us women who actually read this stuff and take it totally seriously.....the others probably just read in amazement. All I can say is that we probably have the healthiest sex lives! :green:

[MetFanL]

So true! :cool:

I love how there's like all of 5 of us women who actually read this stuff and take it totally seriously.....the others probably just read in amazement. All I can say is that we probably have the healthiest sex lives! :green:

I have a friend like that... I say to her all the time, what is the point of reading those articles if you aren't going to try it out?? I'll never understand...

[pisces2473]

I have a friend like that... I say to her all the time, what is the point of reading those articles if you aren't going to try it out?? I'll never understand...
Yeah, I had a roommate who was a virgin until marriage...and she read Cosmo ALL THE TIME, but was pretty quiet about sex and what her and her BF did/didn't do. She's married now, and I wonder if she ever ended up putting all that reading knowledge to use. LOL She IS pregnant so something had to work, lol.

[Kitty]

Interesting. I've used toothpaste on him before & I think it had the same effect. It just never occured to me that he could probably use the toothpaste on me too.

I can't do ice cubes, too cold.

This may be way TMI - but ya know those little mint strips that you put on your tongue and disolve? You can do a lot of fun things with those..

[wordsmith]

Dude, I'm the biggest bookworm nerd EVER. I read up on sex for YEARS before I ever had any. It's definitely paid off.

[wordsmith]

This may be way TMI - but ya know those little mint strips that you put on your tongue and disolve? You can do a lot of fun things with those..

Indeed. ;)

[heatherf]

And girls- once I start gettin' real big, I'll have to fill you all in on how we attempt to do it! ;) Strategery!

[Kitty]

Has anyone had the g-spot orgasm? I'm curious about how that feels? Is it more inside?

There are two different types of orgasms I can have..but they don't involve the g-spot, at least I dont think..

Has anyone ever orgasmed without any stimulation?

[pisces2473]

Dude, I'm the biggest bookworm nerd EVER. I read up on sex for YEARS before I ever had any. It's definitely paid off.
Yeah, but do/did you act like a prude?

[wordsmith]

Has anyone ever orgasmed without any stimulation?


Hee, I had a friend who used to call this "the airgasm."

[heatherf]

Kitty- I've had many orgasms in my sleep- which I only achieve through mental stimulation. They are great!

As for the bigger type that I've had, it seemed to just be like WAY feeling good, never thought it was going to stop....type thing. Hard to expain.

[Kitty]

It happens to me if I'm super turned on. I orgasm just by thinking about stuff.

[wordsmith]

Yeah, but do/did you act like a prude?

NEVER!

I was always waaaaaaay interested, and guys were always surprised, because I'm sometimes quiet.

[wordsmith]

It happens to me if I'm super turned on. I orgasm just by thinking about stuff.

Word.





jk;ljkgkgh

[pisces2473]

And girls- once I start gettin' real big, I'll have to fill you all in on how we attempt to do it! Strategery!
Greg on top, silly!

There are two different types of orgasms I can have..but they don't involve the g-spot, at least I dont think..
For me, orgasms via masturbation are different than via intercourse.

Has anyone ever orgasmed without any stimulation?
Not totally, but it feels kinda like one...

[pisces2473]

NEVER!

I was always waaaaaaay interested, and guys were always surprised, because I'm sometimes quiet.
Hmmm, maybe my friend was/is like that. Well, she's not my friend anymore, but you know what I mean.

[biodork]

All these great suggestions! I wish I had the sex drive to put them to good use :frustrate

I also wish I could make things more interesting, like different positions. But everything else but missionary and girl on top are painful! I have definitely invested in toys, but I seem to just be using those on myself.

Oh yeah and the sex book i have? Definitely shows positions for 3-ways AND 4-ways!!! :evil:

[paiger81]

I probably was/am considered a prude by some people, I guess it depends on what about sex is being discussed & who is doing the discussing. My cousins think I'm a prude because I won't talk about sex when I'm around them, but that is because my parent's are usually with me. Yeah, it's fine if they want to talk in front of their parents about their sexual conquests, but I'm happier keeping my parents out of it.

When I'm with friends I'll compare sex stories, but I don't go into extreme detail, I have some friends who are very descriptive.

Also, I've never used/owned a vibrator. Just never struck me as something I'd want to do.......

[Kitty]

I think my bf is really into having sex standing up (like against a wall or something) but I can't figure out how to do it...

[biodork]

He's gotta be really strong and just completely hold you up. Otherwise it wont work. It's like the whole sex in the shower thing. It's SO hard to do if your guy can't life you up and hold you.

[Kitty]

My bf can lift me up, but i don't know if he'd be able to maintain it WHILE having sex. He's not a big muscle guy by any means...

[biodork]

Yeah same with my bf. He can lift me up too, but holding me up for more than a few min is too difficult for him. Maybe you just need to get a set of steps or something to lift you off the ground a bit? heh im trying to be creative here

[Luna456m]

I agree it's hard to keep that position (standing) I don't think i've ever stayed in that position until it was over......No No now that i think back..it always leads to other positions..mostly because no matter how strong your partner is it gets shakey....

As for the missionary for some reason i have an orgasim (when im luck enough to get one) this way easier than anyother position....well missionary and from behind.... (not anal)

I don't know what it is maybe i'm broken but uugghhh I have to like concentrate to get an orgasim... I have no problem when im using something but while im actually having sex with a guy ...i dont know it takes forever or..it just dosen't happen...sad thing is i can usually tell as soon as we strart...yeaup Im not getting one...its all in my head i think

[Starfish81]

Starfish- whoa. It's cool that you are a virgin and all, but getting off during masturbation and getting off during actual intercourse are two TOTALLY different things. Insulting me because I'm pregnant and I've only gotten one of the big ones? Ouch. That's rude. :torn:

I am sorry if I offended anyone with my statement. I was attempting to be funny, not insulting. :cry:

[coll214]

He's gotta be really strong and just completely hold you up. Otherwise it wont work. It's like the whole sex in the shower thing. It's SO hard to do if your guy can't life you up and hold you.
He just has to be able to hold you up... hmm, this might be a fun experiment to try ;), Yay to muscles!! LOL

[pisces2473]

You can be against the wall, and wrap your legs around him for more stability...

[Luna456m]

Do you both have to be standing? Why can't you sit on a table or the counter or something with him standing?

That works out even better...but i think they were talking about being in the shower? not sure

As of today i don't have a BF or a sex buddy...butt buddy, f partner whatever they are called these days...it was working out great but is no longer :googly:

When i was having sex...i like to keep interesting...and that can be difficult after a while...

[biodork]

I don't know what it is maybe i'm broken but uugghhh I have to like concentrate to get an orgasim... I have no problem when im using something but while im actually having sex with a guy ...i dont know it takes forever or..it just dosen't happen...sad thing is i can usually tell as soon as we strart...yeaup Im not getting one...its all in my head i think

Most of the time I have to concentrate too. I usually don't get "swept away with passion" I have to keep myself from thinking about everything that's going on in my life. My therapist has said that this is my body's way of saying it's too stressed out for sex, that I need to be ok with not having it (or having to gratify my bf) and figure out my issues and then see how my body reacts. I still feel bad for my bf though!

I don't really have a problem getting an orgasm, but definitely can't really do it any other way than missionary to get one.

[Luna456m]

Thats so funny i do the same thing...or i'm thinking about him and totally forgetting about me or... I'm just about to have an orgasim and it's way to early so i delay it only to loose it all together... as for multiple orgasims...i have enough to worry about with one...don't get me wrong i love sex...quick ones long ones whatever but i'm just saying i need to work on ME ME ME

And by the way is your therapist a women? I was married for 11 years and me telling my husband he wasen't getting any for any reason....imeant I had to listen to him cry about it...no thanks ...

One of the many reasons im so glad to be single...

[biodork]

Yeah she is a woman. And my bf doesn't cry about it, luckily. He understands, and he takes whatever I can give him. He just wants me to work out my problems.

[mishl982]

Damn you all for all the sex talk!! :p Let's just say whoever my next partner is is gonna be one lucky bastard. I'll be wanting to make up for all the lost time!!

[and1grad]

Damn you all for all the sex talk!! :p Let's just say whoever my next partner is is gonna be one lucky bastard. I'll be wanting to make up for all the lost time!!
Interesting that u didnt actually say anything gender-specific here. :heehee:

[Luna456m]

Wow i didn't even look into it that way..hmm...But we all know where i stand in that topic...

So how is it that you DID read into that>???hmmm :lol:

[mishl982]

Interesting that u didnt actually say anything gender-specific here. :heehee:
Well if the right girl walked by...
Hehe, no, in all seriousness, I LOVE MEN! Plus, why would I call a woman a bastard? :p

[Luna456m]

I love Men.....I'm not sayingn I haven't experimented (spelling? :googly: )

Everything about me ....prefers a man. :)

Lunch time question of the day today here at work was...

I would go a little by for?....yeah we were bored

I would have to say Angelina Jolie

[heatherf]

It's a "little BI"....not "by". Just clarifiying because I had to read it like 10 times before I understood it. :confused:

[Luna456m]

It's a "little BI"....not "by". Just clarifiying because I had to read it like 10 times before I understood it. :confused:

oops :confused: yeah i seriously suck at spelling but damn it i knew that one

Thanks

[paiger81]

Thank you to whomever just did that.

[heatherf]

Yes, thank you.

I just wanna post the words CERVICAL MUCOUS for the sake of posting CERVICAL MUCOUS though. It's really important when one is trying for a baby! :)

[biodork]

This thread WAS fun for a little bit...

[Starfish81]

This thread WAS fun for a little bit...

I was having fun. :)

[Luna456m]

ok...so this is the last visit to this post.... thanks you to those who came before the arguing.. to the ones who are arguing...hope ur day gets better

xoxoxo

p.s. yeah yeah spelling sucks..

[WeirdBrake]

The "argument" is over, so you can all feel free to go back to discussing what you were discussing before. :) The person who caused the fighting here has been talked to and has assured me that it won't happen again.

[heatherf]

Swwweeetttt! So did we determine how to do it standing up? I like the idea of using a counter top. But I think logistically, it helps if the man is shorter. My husband is 6'1"-6'2".....it's outta the question.

[biodork]

Ok so now that I'm home i can consult my sex position book. :twisted:

It seems like the easiest ways are for the woman to arch her back and bend her knees (taking it from behind!) But I think the guy being taller helps a lot. The guy can just squat down a little and meet the woman heh.

[Kitty]

I think my boyfriend likes the up-against-the-wall thing.

Also, in theory the idea of wrapping my legs around him to hold on while against the wall sounds good..but in practice it is nearly impossible. I've tried :)

[paiger81]

I have to!!! Funny how the movies make it look so easy!!!

[biodork]

Well the porno stars are professionals.... :twisted:

[paiger81]

:razz:
Does your sex book have the position where the girl is basically doing a handstand, while the guy is standing straight up? We(kirk & I) saw this in one of them, and were completely mystified as to how that worked.

[Starfish81]

Well the porno stars are professionals.... :twisted:

And their sex isn't done in real time. :rolleyes:

[cornflakegirl]

:razz:
Does your sex book have the position where the girl is basically doing a handstand, while the guy is standing straight up? We(kirk & I) saw this in one of them, and were completely mystified as to how that worked.

seriously, with all the blood going to the woman's head, how is she possibly going to get off?

[cornflakegirl]

Swwweeetttt! So did we determine how to do it standing up? I like the idea of using a counter top. But I think logistically, it helps if the man is shorter. My husband is 6'1"-6'2".....it's outta the question.

countertops & table tops are nice. it has worked for me, even though i am very short.

[paiger81]

seriously, with all the blood going to the woman's head, how is she possibly going to get off?

I know. Kirk wanted to try it and I was like, there is NO way.

But if you think about it, there are those S&M people who like to get to the verge of passing out during sex/masturbation. Supposedly they say it makes the O intense.

[biodork]

Nope no upside-down positions. But the do have positions for just about everything else-daybeds, winged chairs, armless chairs, rockers, stools. Oh and anal sex. Can't forget the anal sex.

[paiger81]

ooooh, no.
Anal creeps me out. I've attempted it once, but it freaked me out. Luckily, Kirk said it didn't do anything for him, either.

[biodork]

My bf has said if I wanted to try it, he probably wouldn't say no. But i'm like, you won't let me put anal beads in your ass so there's no way I'm letting you stick anything into mine!

[and1grad]

Oh and anal sex. Can't forget the anal sex.
THIS should be your sig.

[mishl982]

I second that motion!

[biodork]

Michelle, what about "coochy enthusiast" :rolleyes:

[and1grad]

How bout "I'll take you to the Candy Shop"?

[mishl982]

Well you can make "coochy enthusiast" as your user title (since she's always promoting this in one thread or another) and the anal line in your signature. See how that works? ;)

[biodork]

Ok done. :rolleyes:

[mishl982]

Yay!

la la la la

[Luna456m]

I am very short and so tables come in handy when doing the stand up thing...but....if the guy stands behind you and squats a little it works out perfectly...

I'm trying to think of the best position???? hmmm drawing a blank right now...

I have a question....ok..im gonna get graphic... I was giving my ex booty call a BJ right.. and I hadn't done before (too him) anyway... everything was going fine and all of a sudden...he clamped his legs shut around my head ... i mean hello i felt like a freakin aligator with its head caught in a vice... so I stopped ...i asked " am i hurting you?" he said no...so the i conitinued and about a minute later he did it again...finally i just gave up... I can live with NEVER doing it...I was just returning the favor???? So any idea what that was all about?

[biodork]

I have a question....ok..im gonna get graphic... I was giving my ex booty call a BJ right.. and I hadn't done before (too him) anyway... everything was going fine and all of a sudden...he clamped his legs shut around my head ... i mean hello i felt like a freakin aligator with its head caught in a vice... so I stopped ...i asked " am i hurting you?" he said no...so the i conitinued and about a minute later he did it again...finally i just gave up... I can live with NEVER doing it...I was just returning the favor???? So any idea what that was all about?

To make you deep throat him.

PS-Get good head, if you ever get a booty call again, it makes the whole thing SO much easier...I personally HATE doing it, but at least I dont gag as much.

[Luna456m]

To make you deep throat him.

PS-Get good head, if you ever get a booty call again, it makes the whole thing SO much easier...I personally HATE doing it, but at least I dont gag as much.

I'm lost..... what?? He clamped my head to make me DEEP Throat???

[biodork]

Yeah most likely, so that he could make you go down on him harder, push your head onto his penis more. If my bf gets into it he will try to start moving my head more onto him, but usually he tries to control himself because he knows I don't like it when he does that.

[Luna456m]

but usually he tries to control himself because he knows I don't like it when he does that.[/QUOTE]


OOOHhhh i hate that so much...thats right there will make me stop!!!

And i don't think it could have gone much deeper.....i dont know...
Thats one thing im good at ..and I DON'T like doing it... but just thought id ask cause i've never had that reaction before....

The swing ...I'd like to try the swing...my ex boyfriend and I went to the Sex shop (drunk) one night and Paid 200 for one and we never got to use it... :torn: Unfortunatley he forgot to take it out of the house we moved out of when we split....I bet the owner was like WTF ???
darn...i could have had allot of fun on that thing