Does it seem like EVERYONE is getting married?

FishOutOfWater · #1 11-02-2009, 03:20 PM

The marriage madness is beginning in my expanded social circle. Apparently marriage is now The Thing To Do. Just about every week I log onto facebook, and someone on my friends list is posting that they're engaged, posting pictures from their wedding, or posting pictures from someone else's wedding in our age / peer group. This has just started happening in past year. Previously I had a couple of engaged and married friends, but they were both people I'd always known would marry young for various reasons. Now it seems like most people are getting married or are waiting with baited breath for an engagement to happen.

I'm genuinely happy for everyone who is getting married to someone they love. I just feel out of the loop because for various reasons I just don't feel ready to get married at this age, even though I'm in a long-term relationship. I just feel like not I'm old enough, mature enough, responsible enough, etc, to get married, or like I'm ready to make a lifetime commitment to anyone. I have a few friends who feel the same way (one jokes that we should create "living in sin" registries!), but I feel out of sync with the majority of my peers.

Bsig84 · #2 11-02-2009, 04:34 PM

In my group of friends it's babies. Holy cow, everyone is getting pregnant! I actually just got married (sorry!) and did notice a lot of people I knew getting married but I figured it was because I was looking for it. I was in "wedding mode" and my world revolved around weddings for a while.

ebrillblaiddes · #3 11-02-2009, 06:22 PM

Yeah, I'm the last one in my group too...my cousin is getting married in April and it's almost all she talks about, and my mom's started asking how things are going with BF in that tone. Ugggghhhhhhh.

drummer · #4 11-02-2009, 11:57 PM

Probably because I'm 23 (almost 24), yes now everyone is getting married it seems. Everyone. I couldn't imagine getting married now, but if others feel ready, well that's fine. A few people I know (not close friends, mostly people I knew in high school) are starting to have kids. That's even weirder to think about.

ugarachel82 · #5 11-03-2009, 12:10 AM

Uh, yeah.

It's bad when the 24-year-old (first-year) teachers at school look at me condescendingly because I'm not dating anyone and have no intention of getting married any time soon. That's elementary ed for ya.

wordsmith · #6 11-03-2009, 08:07 AM

The majority of the people I grew up with were married while I was still a college student, because I'm from a small-town midwestern area where that's the norm.

I also work in an oddly religiously conservative area different from where I grew up, and young marriage is fairly common here, too, because of that.

Actually, among the people I grew up around and am around, it seems less like "everyone" is getting married than it does a large chunk of those who did (ugh) "starter" marriages are getting divorced. Them's the breaks.